A LIFETIME MEMORY

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There are some memories in someone's life that can never be forgotten, even if you make every effort to put them out of your mind. Nevertheless, you must occasionally recall the incident.

I will always remember the tragedy from a few years ago when I lost one of my siblings.
It has been precisely 20 years since this incident took place in November 2002.

When I was younger, I had no understanding of what death meant. I used to walk by whenever someone in the neighbourhood passed away and people were grieving and thought to myself, "Why are they crying, as old as they are?"

I occasionally went to the funerals of deceased family members.
I attended because they would fry beans cakes, which was my main motivation. The bean cake was always edible and palatable. After eating, I would drink some limca on top of the bean cake. I have no experience with the sadness of losing a loved one, though I'm sure the rest of the family would be heartbroken and grieved.

In 2001, one of my siblings, named(Kemisola), got married. Among the other members of my family, she was the one I cherished most. As a little boy, I loved her the most because she was generous and always gave me money, even though I have three sisters.

Even if I hadn't asked for money, she would drop some coins inside my savings box. This act made me love her more than the others, even though they are all nice. She has always been the best of them.

When she got married, I cried uncontrollably because I was going to miss her, but she convinced me that she would come for me once I had finished high school.

A few months after her marriage, she became pregnant, but before the pregnancy was obvious, she told me before everyone else. I was excited to hear that I would soon become a small uncle.

Day Of Delivery

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When the delivery day finally arrived, she safely gave birth to a baby girl, and I was delighted to meet my first niece. We partially resembled each other, and she was beautiful.

"My baby girl looks precisely like you."
I remembered When you were born and I carried you at the hospital, she exclaimed.

Beginning Of The Issue

After being discharged from the hospital three days after giving birth, my parent received a strange phone call from her husband saying that she had been rushed to the hospital. Because it was a Saturday morning, we all went there to see how she was doing.

When we arrived at the hospital, she had completely changed and now resembled someone who had been battling a deadly virus for a very long time. When we questioned the doctor about the nature of the illness, he explained that after doing a series of tests, they were able to identify the illness to be "ChildBirth Depression."

The doctor said that some women have postpartum depression, but they will eventually recover from it due to the stress and discomfort of labour.

Despite spending a few weeks in the hospital, she was told not to nurse the newborn. While she was in the hospital, the baby was with us at home. At that time, despite my mother's and my other sisters' best efforts, the baby would cry nonstop. I took on the role of the mother as well at that time, calming the baby with songs.

After a few days, she was discharged and returned home to meet her newborn baby, since she felt better. Only two days after her discharge, she felt ill again.
After being taken back to the hospital, the doctor determined that the facility couldn't handle her care and recommended that she should be transferred to Federal Medical Center.

She stayed over there at The Federal Medical Centre for 6 months, and my parent stayed with her, that time was a bad memory in the family, we couldn't eat very well at home because our parents were not settled, her baby was with us and my other sisters were taking care of her

The Demise

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I cried uncontrollably on that terrible day, and it will always be one of my most memorable moments. When I got home from school, I noticed a crowd in front of the house. Everyone was calm and sober. My eldest sister rushed to meet me when I arrived, telling me not to come to the house since mommy was back in town and that I should meet her at my grandmother's house right away after school.

People were crying and scrolling on the floor when I got to my grandmother's house, and everything was scattered. I immediately started shaking and felt weak. As soon as my oldest sister announced Sis Kemi's passing, I broke down and was unable to stand up. It felt as if I had eaten something poisonous. They sprinkled water on me, but I was still unable to stand.
After a few minutes, then I started crying and my face was swollen. I couldn't eat for three days, I lost my appetite and felt bitterness for a few days.

I will always remember how painful it was to lose a close family member or friend. It left a significant space in the family. We eventually overcame our sorrow and all of us learned to live without her.
This is a true life story!!!!

Feel free to comment, if you have similar memory!

Thank You All For Reading.

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Hmmmm this is indeed touching bro, I was expecting the story to end on a very beautiful note only for me to see that you later lost her, sorry about that, loosing your favourite sis must have been very hard on you bro, i was in your shoes to some years ago when I lost my school sister, she was my besties and confidant but her lost left a huge space in my life but her good deeds and our beautiful memories together kept me going....

I miss her too and I wish her goodness wherever she is now...
I am with you brother , the pain you must'have felt having to write about it today is something I can imagine...

Thank you for sharing bro, how is yr niece now??? She would have been a big girl now bro ..

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Oh thank you for your contribution bro, good that you can relate to my story bro, it has not been easy to lose a loved one. The thought that you won't be able to see them again is another heartbreak.

I'm sorry that you lost your school sister, she will be proud of you now in heaven.
My niece is now a big girl now and she looks exactly like her mother, so looking at her always makes me happy, because my sister left her replacement.
I appreciate your concern bro, you are amazing!!

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I knew I wasn't in for a happy ending when I read the first two paragraphs 😩😢 this is so sad

To think that this memory will stick for as long as one would live is even more heart breaking.

I've never heard of childbirth depression before... It's scary and I wonder what could be the cause 😢

So sorry for your loss, it's so obvious how much you loved her... Too bad she had to go a bit too early 😭

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Childbirth depression is real, please go and read about it and I pray that you won't have such a problem.
Thank you for your nice contribution, it's so painful losing our loved ones.

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I will research on it definitely... We learn everyday.

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I'm so sorry for your loss and for the fact that the baby never met her mother. Losing someone dear to us is never easy but with time the pain fades.

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Thank you for kinds words, I appreciate your contribution
It's painful, but we got over it already. But she's forever in our health

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Losing someone we care about is something that everyone doesn't want, because we will feel very sad when we lose someone we care about.

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May God continue to comfort you and take care of the baby. This is sad, I took have lost a family member too, I lost my Dad and we all felt like we won't survive it because he was the best Dad and my best friend. He had no sister and I was his first daughter, he pampered me much. But then, such is life. God gives us strength to endure. Please as often as you remember , especially as you see the child,continue to be comforted, the resurrection hope is there for us. One day, we will see our dead loved ones again.

Now let me tease you small, what about bean cake? Did you eat it again at her burial? Who would even bother to fry? 😭

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Thank you for this wonderful contribution, it's very painful to lose someone close to us.
I'm sorry for the demise of your loving dad, I pray that you will all make him proud.

The thought of not seeing our loved ones again till resurrection day is another heartbreak.

Frying bean cake is meant for old people's death and not for the young ones, who will dare to try that at a young person's burial, lol
They will descend on the person.
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I am so sorry. Now, you understood why people cried while you ate beans cake and drank Limca as a child. The pain of losing a loved one can not be explained in words but experienced with grief.

I am sorry about your sister. How's your niece doing now?

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I appreciate your kind words, and I now know why people grieve when a loved one passes away.

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Wasn't easy afterall...a stigma that's left with us forever!! Undeniable truth!

I'm sorry you lost your sister to the cold hands of death...now this is what they say “a dose of your own medicine” sadly is not what one will wish someone but life always has its own pattern of operation😒... only if a wish is granted one would have made such!... but nah! Life strucks so hard sometimes that it would be difficult to pull oneself together!

That's a brief story of my immediate brother, someone I cherished and loved... someone who also has great plans... someone who has hopes and energy... but where is he ??.... only the land of the dead, maybe its master would answer that!... annoying but today he lives as a memory...I intentionally deleted his picture, burnt his clothes, and properties to not be reminded how he looks. That is how I overcame that trauma that left me shattered.

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Oh, I'm so sorry about your brother's death, the thought of not being able to talk to them again is another heartbreak. But we can't question anyone, we shall continue to pray to God to be guiding us.

Thank you for your contribution

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I am so sorry to hear about your brother Cesca:(
Life is short, we need to live it and love it.

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Losing a family member is one of the hardest thing one can endure, even though if is bound to happen at one time or the other. Nothing prepares you for it and the hurt stays for a long time indeed.

I am sure she will be in a better place now.

Thank you for sharing this with us.

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This must have been a hell of experience for you dear May her Soul Continue to Rest in Peace in Jesus Mighty Name Amen 🙏
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That is truly sad and I am sorry to hear about your sister, how is her daughter?

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Hmmm indeed it is a lifetime memory.

It's a good thing the family learnt to leave without her but one thing is always certain, her memory will forever lives and linger.

How about her child, hope she is doing well?

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Yeah, my niece is now a big girl, she will soon graduate as a barrister. The memory of her mother lives on.
Thank you for your contribution.

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Wow, that's really a great growth.

You are welcome

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I am so sorry that you went through this very sad experience, Opeyemi. It must have been very difficult to deal with, especially at such a young age. I lost my best friend when I was around 8/9 years old. Those moments are forever engrained on my heart and soul. Thank you for sharing this incredibly personal story. I hope you have a wonderful relationship with your niece now. !LUV !hivebits

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