There is a force that draws you to error. How to get rid of it?
Imagine the following situation:
You are married but feel strongly attracted to someone else. One fine day you are calm and suddenly you notice that your libido is high. You feel warmer and warmer and you start thinking about that person who physically attracts you, you start to imagine scenes, but your conscience screams, you stop imagining, take water, take a shower, try to watch, or play a game to dispel that fantasy . Until all of a sudden, it happens again, you're imagining a whole sex scene with another person, your conscience still resists, deep down you truly don't want to think about it, but deep down you do too, you want to imagine it, you want to see every detail like an immersive film.
Now imagine another situation: You're arguing with someone, a serious argument, while you're washing the dishes, you hear horrible things and you also say things that no one likes to hear and that you yourself in your right mind wouldn't say, but you do, you know it's going to be hard for someone else to hear that, your conscience tries to warn you but you ignore it, you just want to get revenge verbally, but the argument is over, you're still very angry and break a glass on purpose.
In these two situations, was there a way to stop before making a mistake? After all, how to fight with this chaotic energy that attracts us to do precisely what is worse for us?
I have the answer that works for me, even though I sometimes have relapses myself. But I can say with certainty that the key to the first door to get out of this evil energy flow is the breath.
Controlling your breath is power. Controlling your breathing at a time of stress or temptation, whatever it may be, is what will make you stop and realize that you can't go ahead with your impulsive idea. Breathing and taking a few steps back, you'll realize how insane you're being. There is a technique that I use, which also helps you to get into a measurement state. It comes to breathing in 4 seconds:
Pull out all the air counting 1, 2, 3, 4 slowly and mentally. Then hold your breath for 4 seconds in the same way, then breath out for 4 seconds. Do this a few times until you've calmed down enough for you to go make some tea, or go outside to see the sky, or spend a few extra minutes in the shower. You will feel better and be in control of yourself again.
What this force is that and tempts us and harms us , I cannot say. I don't know if it's spirits that influence our feelings, or if it's just us with our darker side that takes advantage of any gap to get out of the subconscious. What I do know is that we need to dig deep inside ourselves to know exactly what moves us and not be caught by surprise in situations where if we are not prepared, we will be impulsive and we can screw it up.