A relationship that isn't perfect
How good can it get?
Trying our best for our loved one's sake often comes naturally. When both people in the relationship want to do everything they can to please one another, this is a problem more often than not. We'll often get in situations where negativity is involved. It's hard to shake it off when no agreements improve how they feel. Have you ever been in a similar situation?
This one time, I was walking home with my dearest friend, but I couldn't keep up with her pace. My stomach was too full. Still, my legs instinctively tried not getting left behind. Within ten minutes, I had developed mild stomach pain and a really bad mood.
At a certain point, she realized how I was being sort of rude (I hadn't realized it myself). When she asked me about it, I told her it was because she kept walking too quickly, despite me having asked her to slow down a few blocks back. She said she'd get herself to slow down then, even though it was frustrating because of how I slow I wanted to walk.
This is a problem, because I can see her frustration, and it gets to me. So forcing herself to slow down still worsens the situation - you know how overly sensible people can get when their stomach hurts. I can't walk faster, she can't keep up with my slow pace, she doesn't want to walk ahead. Little things like this stack over time. It slowly gets personal.
But most people - like I once did - forget it's okay if the relationship isn't perfect. Because it can still be a really good relationship, no matter how far it is from perfection. In this sense, it's the exact opposite of "a little bit is way better nothing", and it's just as important.
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This is truth that every relationship really need understanding and corporations if you refuse to understand your partner it will be so hard to cope with them
This is exactly what is happening in some family, when their is lack of understanding the family can never settle..
When you now you can not slow down,and your partner can not walk fast because of the pains.all you both needed to do is to adjust your way both.,,because nobody is perfect.
This is the kind of advice that is mostly giving to family,it is true that both did not come from the same family and that is the most reason why both of them must adjust their way.
Let for example you marry a woman that talk too much and she always love giving attention,and in your case is another way ran.
In that case you don't need to ignore her completely because that will never bring peace to the house. All you need to do is to find a little time to attend to her by giving her some attension and as time goes on she will adjust and everything will be balanced.
Exactly. Sometimes, the only way we can find balance is by not trying to perfectly harmonize as a couple all the time.
Their is always a room for perfection out of imperfection and that is why relationship can be walked out irrespective of the difference or the mood at a particular time.
Just like your situation in this content,it shows how you both tried to manage the condition, despite the fact that it wasn't really pleasant for you guys.
Something I also got to notice in the content was that,your decision for her to walk slowly wasn't just for unreasonable reason,it is as a result of the condition at that present moment,but in life irrespective of who will are with it is vital that we learn how to adapt to people's opinion and manage their character.
Relationship is all about learning how to deal with the imperfection of the other person and making everything a perfect one out from their mistakes most times
True. We must also remember that, sometimes, what we really must do is accept each others' flaws without trying to compensate.
Yes no relationship is perfect but we can make it so perfectly, when there is understanding.
Understanding in relationships matter most, it bring happiness,joy, progress and peace.
When you understand your friend or your spouse, we see there wouldn't be a problem in relationships.
And adjustment is one of the key, because if one is hot temper than others or lack of know each other, like what of you want and what you don't want.
We need to adjust to the taste of each person, so that everything will be perfect. Even though it is hard for both of you.
And ignore all wrong doing, forgive and forget.
Accepting the negative differences is key. Not being positive is also okay.
Yes, exactly, there are billions of reasons why we slip into such situations. Then it depends on how we deal with each other. It is not so easy not to be offended and often not so hard to be offensive either. Not only the body can hurt, so can the soul and then it is best not to bury things but not to shout them out either.
If it was a case then I would be on your side, although I would never take sides because then it would be unfair and strain a relationship anyway. So, if you have a stomach ache then yes you can say that before you get in a bad mood and ask her to slow down because you'd like to go with her and it's all too fast for you. I think if you're in a bad mood, it's not rude. You're probably in a bad mood because she hasn't noticed that you're not keeping up.
What relationship is perfect. I know that many people argue. If you don't do that, a relationship is already almost perfect. We humans are each so different and we are often not an open book either.
That's what we did regarding that situation. There was a little negativity, but we just didn't care about sorting it out - it wasn't relevant enough. We just have to deal with moments like this, when we're not in synch. As long as we don't keep looking back at the negativity and it doesn't keep repeating itself, it won't become emotional baggage, so why care at all!