Undesirable Paradise. POB WOTW SOLITUDE
Have you ever been surrounded by people you love or people that loves you yet you completely feel alone? Have you ever felt lost even in your own skin feeling you are drowning right on your couch?
At some point or the other we all have had related feeling. It might just be a puzzle of our lives that needs to be solved yet affecting the flourishing aspect.
Having moved to a new city I thought to visit an old friend that was a colleague at my previous work place. She married an accountant who happened to be a Muslim but now works with the government, she left her job then to move in with her husband at the Capital.
As I drove into her compound, I couldn't help but to look around like a village girl. It was a very big mansion that has a golf course, a mini zoo, a well equipped gym that you could see from outside and a beautiful lake at a corner. My Ego wouldn't allow me take pictures lol. So i concluded in my heart that this must be a Happy Place.
After about minutes of waiting at the guest living room, She showed up looking extremely radiant, her skin was dazzling and I could smell wealth over her. We hugged and exchanged pleasantries 'its been four years' she said. we sat at the bar sipping a glass of wine catching up with old times but the countenance on her face wasn't the usual happy face i have known her to be.
As our conversation got deeper, i realised how she is more like the princess locked in a castle provided with everything including maids yet restricted to the outside world. Her husband gave her two option, either to dress like the hijab women or to restricted to staying at home except occasionally when they had to go out together. As a Christian woman before getting married, she felt covering up wouldn't work for her so she choose the other option.
Its four years with no child, her husband is hardly around and she feels completely empty. I was initially dumb folded,' She must have been through a lot' I thought. I told her to have a conversation with him, and make him see reasons with her, If he loves her there might a change in his mind. I also told her visiting the therapist wouldn't be a bad idea just to help restore some happiness into the home. She took to my advice. We had some more fun time together walking around her compound before I left.
I realised Life isn't balanced and nobody has it all. Even at that, we must try our best to keep our heads high and find a way to be happy despite our individual inadequacies.
Thanks for reading through.
Sad to hear this, some men think everything is about money…
Surely money as a strong role to play but it can’t play the role of attention.
You have said it all my friend, no one had it all we just have to find a balance and be happy with choices we made.
Hmmmm... This is not smiling at all infact a lot of people as being in silence pains like this and no body to share their feelings with the must painful thing is the so many people might not want to believe what their are passing through forgotten the fact that live is truly not in away balance
No one can be 100percent completely their must definitely be some thing you will in one way or the other
you are very right, so much sorrow buried underneath peoples smiles. Some will say life is unfair
@feyifavor trust me you will be amazed at the number of people that are in the same or similar situation as your friend.
Some ladies make choice based on love, material things and so on, forgetting that one's happiness is their first priority.
Imagine being in a place where all you need as a human is provided even in excess yet you still feel empty and incomplete, situations like this can really make one fall into depression.
We are supposed to live our life to our satisfaction, avoid making choices that will leave you questioning yourself about your current situations, make healthy choices and live a free life instead of living in solitude.