Insults And Honorifics
Apparently being labeled a try hard is supposed to be an insult. At least among the younger set. As a medium-aged person I find this absolutely hilarious. Imagine taking mocking of one's effort as a slight.
This morning during my growth time I read:
"Effort is what ignites ability and turns it into accomplishment."
Carol Dweck Phd.
When did effort to improve become looked at as a thing to be mocked? Shouldn't effort expended on the path to growth, especially in something that doesn't come easily or naturally to a person, be praised and encouraged?
Is this why people, especially a lot of young people, seem to have constant crisis's of confidence, because they are just expected to come out of the box capable of exceeding at anything?
Even I have fallen into the fixed mindset in regards to ability mud puddle of poor me doom. After having a very horrible extended illness this past year, my brain, a thing that I could always count on to be awesome, is just not quite itself. After zooming out a bit and examining some of the feelings I have been having about my cranium not being as awesome as it once was, I realized that I had derived a lot of my self-worth from something that I thought was fixed, my intelligence.
My entire experience as an adult has taught me that the idea of one's success being determined by pre-existing attributes is absolute bovine fecal matter, so why was I wallowing about in a pity pool about a change in personal existence variables?
Instead of dwelling on what I thought I lost, I should be excited about where I can go. Yes, my brain is functioning differently, but now I get to learn to do things differently. This set of circumstances is yet another step in the adventure of growth we all can partake in.
The alternative, playing the could have been game seems like not a good time, for some reason sitting on the sidelines of life and mocking the try hards seems more than a little lame and incredibly time-wasty.
So on that note, I will be wearing my try hard badge with glee and learning as I go. For I do most definitely have a destination. I'm just not there...yet...
Because refusing to be pigeon-holed by your natural abilities to grow is to truly live.
There is a fine line between persistence and futility. I don't know where it is, but I know I've crossed it several times and stubbornly refused to give up on lost causes. Unfortunately, mine is the generation of participation trophies and instant gratification, I was spared the brunt of it simply by dint of being homeschooled. You're... what is it, eleven years older than me? Did things really change that much in that comparatively short timespan, or did you simply manage to escape the cookie cutter as well?
Morning Kaja (Or should I say afternoon?)!
I am so sorry to be so slow replying, my kid took two bad hits to the head in his away basktetball game Thursday night (which no one bothered to tell me about) and the following morning after I had a meeting I found my child with all the symptoms of pretty respectable concussion which I had verified at urgent care shortly after. That on top of a sick husband and a fresh dumping of about eight inches of snow has made things interesting round here!
And I hear you about the fine line of futility and persistence, it is so hard to know when to pivot for sure. Thanks to having some very anti-authoritarian parents, one who was an absolute heathen of a wilderness logger, and being homeschooled through middle school (plus living in the wilderness of Alaska), I feel like I was spared the whole participation trophy instant gratification mindset.
Are you only 30 my friend? For some reason you seem so much older, but that's the whole homeschooled mature thing I bet. Other than looking far younger than my years, people always thought I was older than I was, the whole old soul thing lol!
Well, I gotta run, need to go make some nourishing comestibles for the brain injury patient!
Hope you are having a splendid day!
I am indeed only 30, at least in this lifetime. I've been told that I'm not merely an old soul, I'm the equivalent of Methuselah. I'm certainly an older soul than my sister (37), at least according to... never mind.
Good luck with taking care of everyone. Hopefully that bump on the noggin doesn't leave any lasting effect.
I love that! Methuselah-kaja!
It's been a bit of a rodeo around here with all the massive amounts of snowfall, the great brain pain incident (he's mending well), and so on and so forth. I hope things are going well for you back yonder? Oh! I know what I was going to ask you! What is your all time favorite chicken breed? (You are probably like me and have more than one, but I know you are into domestic fowl and such and I would love to know such things!)
All-time favourite chicken breed, hmm...
Let's see, Ameraucanas for eggs (and entertainment value), blue Cochins for brooding (Smokey has set thrice this past year), and Delawares for meat, though that last one is just my personal preference. Most other breeds I've tried have been either too tough or too fatty, and chicken fat makes me sick - literally. I have an old black Australorp rooster that I will cook in a pot full of wine for Christmas, we'll see how that turns out.
BTW, I don't know if I told you, I have 13 guineas now. I'll share a bunch of pictures soon, and maybe even a video. I'm still waiting on my neighbour to send me some video she took of them.
Ooh, I have a had all of those breeds and totally agree! The Delawares are so hardy too, I love that! My last laying hens were all Ameraucanas and I just adore their personalities, and Cochins are lovely as well. Dangit! I am going to order a batch of laying pullets here soon because it's time to bring in new layers, and honestly I was just going to get a heavy layer assortment of pullets just for fun, but definitely wanted to pick your brain a bit as I know you enjoy flock-keeping.
And I absolutely adore German War Helmets too (what my mom calls guineas lol). Can't wait to see the pics of them, we used to have eight here on the farm, I love those noisy little beasties and their eggs are pretty tasty too!
So many things these days are mocked. A company that makes a profit in some circles nowadays is looked upon as a shame by many younger folk. Being frugal and industrious, once virtues, are often mocked as well.
It is definitely an upside down time in regards to commonly previously upheld virtues and norms, that is for sure!
I often run into assertions out in the public sphere that confuse me. It's a strange era...
Hope all is well back yonder!
I think the distinction is a "try-hard" isn't so much trying to improve as trying to impress people while blissfully ignorant of their own incompetence and arrogance.
I definitely don't disagree with the definition of that term according to the distinction, the problem is that the term is being applied to anyone who expends effort, regardless of their motive. Shouldn't effort be praised over personal accolades.
That said, I might not be making sense, the last 24 hours have about ended me lol
And let's be honest here, we're officially old and out of touch with the youth, and slang keeps morphing. I could well be wrong in 2022.
We are officially old! I have to catch myself all the time when I hear things uttered and remind myself that I don't have that under 20 context any more lol lol!
I find myself distressed at your distress, proud of your positive response, yet overall rather bewildered...😮
Reading this, I went into shock—then after chastising myself for having been totally ignorant of such unhappy news, I riffed off of "this past year," and went back over your 2022 looking for further clues—then your 2021, still searching... Nothing.
As someone who loves you but has been terribly, inconsistently unfaithful as a reader, I was sure I must have shamefully missed a corresponding "horrible extended" gap in your blogging... Nope.
Surely, then, I had to have missed some clearly relevant series of articles about said malady?... Nope.
Well then; there had to be reports of colds, viruses, sickness, etc.—finally, one or two brief mentions in a post here and there... Along with very heart-warming accolades for an obviously marvelously supportive hubs and great kids who care for you when you're down and take up all the homestead chore slack... PTL for those dudes! I'm impressed and pleased to know that they are on the job!🙏👍
But "very horrible extended illness this past year"? Why can't I find the full report of that? May I please have chapter and verse? (If it's in there somewhere, again; forgive me, friend, for failing to read you more thoroughly and more often)...
I know you are a homesteader/farmer/Mighty Amazon Woman of the Northern Wastes... but, my goodness, Girl! How can you be such a trooper as to, in so few words barely mention in passing a "very horrible extended illness"?
The closest thing I've found to a clue is this... is this what ails you?
My dear friend, I'm not asking as some nosy busybody stranger... It's just that—because I'm in tune with assorted and sundry amazing "alternative health" sorts of remedies—I long for the opportunity to enlighten someone I care about with information surrounding one or two incredible remedies I've seen do wonders. My hope is that they may possibly also benefit you.
Please forgive me if I've overstepped here, and carry on at least knowing of my concern and prayers for you.🙏❤️
Oh my dear friend, I didn't mean to prolong any distress, my poor son got concussed at his basketball game late Thursday night and that event started a long chain of events that has had me running to and fro!
Anyway, you haven't overstepped at all! I tend to try to always be an open authentic book on here, but I am also a bit of a reserved person with regards to how much blabbing I do about super personal stuff. Long story short, I have had Hashimoto's Hypothyroidism for most of my life, an affliction I put in remission when I stopped listening to the medical cartel and got serious about nutrition and such. This past February in a twelve hour period I lost a pint of blood, was bitten by a venomous spider on my spine, and came down with Covid. All at the same time.
Let's just say that my already over active immune system nuked me. There were a few times I thought I might be joining the Good Lord even, and even through the worst of it I still had to take care of the farm and fam, so that strain on my system prolonged my recovery. Anyway, I just condensed several months of misery into a very sort anecdote, but it wasn't a very good time.
Slowly but surely I have recovered, I just notice that my poor cranial matter isn't firing quite the way it did before, but I'm a big believer in the power of healing one's carcass with food, and I grow some of the finest food here on the place. All that grass fed meat, non toxin grown veg, and lots of exposure to the sun and elements has got me mending nicely.
That said, I so, so appreciate your concern and care😊 And I have visited your page of wisdom many times over the years, I just don't pipe up as often as I should regarding your awesome generousness, mainly because I find myself not sitting down too often lol!
Hope all is well down your way, we are buried in well over three feet of snow now, with another foot on the way. Gotta go plow!
First, I hope your son is doing OK?🙏😮
So, my friend, Thank you for (somewhat) setting my mind at ease; I'm sad to learn of that extended 1-2-3 punch you took back in February, but I'm happy to know that all's well (mostly) now... And that my stint as a detective plowing through your blog the other day actually unearthed the bit about Hashimoto's...🤣 (of course I am laughing at my detectiving, not at your affliction!)
I love your attitude about what you've gone through, and (if you'll allow it) I'm here, hopefully, to help a bit? I strongly identify with your characterization of American medicine as a cartel, and I have one very strong "move in this direction right now" recommendation for you. It's something I've known about for, probably, decades now, but which wifey and I have only this year begun to apply; chlorine dioxide. You will find that it is universally bad-mouthed by that cartel, which for me is almost recommendation enough in itself.😆
I'd like to encourage you to (in your copious spare time-hahahahahaha) have a look here:
and if possible sit through the entire documentary (1st vid on the site) in order to gain a general understanding of what MMS/CDS (terms for different ways to apply chlorine dioxide) are, where they came from, and what they're good for.
Please look also at this very important and directly relevant short video...
I strongly suspect this remedy could help you, and I would absolutely love to discuss this with you at length; perhaps we could speak one day over Signal, or some other nicely encrypted channel? :D I have other non-cartel remedies I could tell you of as well...
There's a ton more info about CL02 I could share with you, including our personal and family and animal experience with chlorine dioxide, but this should be enough (I hope?) to pique your interest...?🙏 And if/when you're ready to try MMS, I can help.
And I am slow again, seriously though, there hasn't been much sitting. I had to spend some time at school with admin because of some of the events dealing with my son getting his cranium concussed. He's doing well, but it's not a lot of fun for him, poor guy.
I shall delve into all that glorious information you have presented me when I get a chance. Thank you so, so much for sharing it! And hopefully at one point things will calm down enough I can devote some time to convos and in-depth inspection😊
You are awesome and appreciated my dear friend, hope all is well down your way!
It feels more as though being mocked for being a "try hard" is a way of preventing people from shining. Doesn't it?
So, for those who are told not to be a "try hard", it should then (logically) follow that they have something that the rest of the bunch may feel threatened by and so should go for it!
Also. Meh. People when the judge. *rolling eye emoji
You sound like a very powerful human. 👍
It does feel that way. Instead of building people up by appreciating their effort, people feel the need to lower others to what level they perceive they are at out of fear, insecurity, etc. Sad.
And I am all about being my own competition, the rest is just noise!
You sound like a very powerful human yourself, I adored your comment!
Love yours in return :D
Yes. The rest is just noise!
Keep shining 💥😊
More power to you!
Aww, thank ya my sunshine dwelling friend of awesomeness!
I can so relate to the brain not as it once was. But I just keep going and make the best of the coping skills I have....
Had not heard of the "try hard" thing, such a waste of time...
Whenever I think of a true homesteader with all that glorious grit that one needs to persevere through adversity, your smiling face comes to mind.
That said, I am sorry about the brain thing, it really does suck, but I'll be right there soldiering and coping with ya.
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Oh my dear friend.
Things with young people never change. They put down others to make themselves feel better. Unfortunately some people that turn into adults, at least in age, never loose that.
As for you, I have no doubt that you will come out on top. Just from reading this post I know you will.
Try and stay strong, build your mental strength.
I am here if you have need 😉
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