Show the grow!
And I am 41 years old!
I’ve always felt a bit awkward in my own skin. Part of that stems from I am a super old soul on the inside, but look pretty youthful on the outside. Most people think I am in my twenties, which I suppose is pretty nice that I have now aged a bit, because looking like you are twelve when you are twenty-eight and have spawn in tow is a bit trying at times.
Then again, even though I look young, I am starting to feel the grind of age on the inside. My energy and tolerance for things has changed. I am starting to weed the emotional vampires out of my life, and most of all, I am beginning to truly understand the old adage, show, don’t tell.
At this middle point of my life, the need for validation has truly evaporated. Not that I had a huge need for societal approval, but I had a huge drive to be loved by those close to me and bent myself around those I cared about so they would be comfortable. At a huge cost to my well-being.
For the last year and a half, I have been in training. Behavioral pattern alteration training. In order to keep growing, to keep living, one must reflect on the habits and impressions they hold, ruthlessly examen them against what is logical and just, and do the work to cast off what is causing one harm. And it’s hard work for real. The thing is, it’s personal work, and you don’t need to go around telling everyone what you are doing, it shows in what you do.
For instance, I am terrible at saying no, especially to family members. The thing is, from all the studying I have done regarding self-development, in order to grow and accomplish your goals, you have to say no. There are only so many hours in the day, so many weeks in your finite life, and you cannot be all things to all people. I know this well, I was a chameleon who bent myself around everyone around me so that they could be comfortable, and some people took advantage of this and fed off of my energy. Here’s the thing though, I let them.
In order to accomplish my goals, to become who I wish to be instead of the amiable marionette the world will happily foist on me if I deign to allow it, I had to learn to say no. It’s a hard thing for me, I still struggle with it. When someone requests something of me, I instantly feel a rush of emotion to acquiesce to their request. I would also feel guilt if I even thought about not doing what was asked of me. If you notice, everything that I went through was because of me, I was harming myself.
Because here’s the thing, sometimes you can do stuff for people and sometimes you can’t. It’s also 100 percent alright to not want to do something that is requested of you. You have to give yourself permission to be master of your own mind. I cannot believe the amount of angst I have put myself through in life just over trying to be accommodating to people, especially people who thought they had the right to my time. No one does. Period.
Then again, it’s not like I am running around being a NO harpy. In the beginning I did force myself to say no quite a bit because it was uncomfortable for me. Everything I have learned from people farther than I on the growth path is that running into fear and discomfort yields the greatest gains in growth. That’s what I desire, to grow as a human, to learn, to be my best self. Because at the end of the day our time here is finite, and I want to pack in as much good living as possible before I leave.
So even though I am sitting here writing a post telling you about how I am showing my growth by not verbalizing all the stuff I have learned (LOL!), I feel like even writing about it is an action of works rather than blathering about how awesome I am and how much I have learned, etc. Instead, my goal with this post is to paint a scene of just how important it is to do the work as we progress through this life. It is easy to settle into our comfortable patterns of behavior as we age, but there truly is so much more for us to become and experience, we just have to be willing to do the work.
Happy New Year, I wish you good health, take care of yourself...
Thank you so much!! I wish you the same😊
Happy birthday! 😊
Thank you so much @brando28!!
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Happy Birthday, @generikat. I gotta say, I like the shotgun behind your right shoulder, it really makes the picture, lol. It looks like my Mossberg 12 ga pump action.
I hope you have a fantastic birthday and you are able to get some "ME" time.
Ooh you have a good eye, that is exactly what it is! We have the same shotgun! How cool! That was my 30th birthday present from the fam, they put it in my car trunk with a red velvet cake instead of wrapping it, I still laugh thinking about that day lol!
Thank you so much for the well-wishes, yesterday was glorious! Hope you are having a lovely day!
Mine was a Father's Day present from my family a few years ago. It is a great weapon for home defence but it would make a bit of a mess.
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I would have said 28 😉
We are learning to grow, at least the ones of us that want to.
I look forward to seeing your growth at 42 😀
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You hit the growth nail right on the head lol! Those of us who want to grow really are aiming high for sure, and I can't wait to see 42 too!
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First of all, I'm all kinds of honored, that you left me a comment on one of my posts today on YOUR birthday. Second, you are flawless and yes; definitely don't look anywhere near 41 years old and third your content and your journey is beyond 10 lifetimes of "SO COOL"
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Holy happy birthday message of awesomeness! Thank you so much @jimmy.adames!
Also, I am super impressed you found a gif of me eating my birthday cake last night, I am so not ashamed of wearing it lol lol!🤣
You are beyond cool too my friend, your crushing it everyday attitude of excellence is the bestest!
Happy birthday and welcome to 41 -- I crossed over in January and it's wonderful here!
Ooh, thank you! Glad to be in such excellent company😊
hmmm.....
Happy birthday!!!!
Best birthday meme ever! LOL 💀🤣
Thanks Amir!
I suppose I was about your age when I started figuring that stuff out. Still working on it. And no, you don't look your age. It will REALLY come in hand when you hit 60!! Happy birthday!
Thank you so much, I have learned a lot from you over the years, looking forward to my 60th birthday someday too! Imagine the mischief I'm going to get in by then, lol!
I try not to be a staid, predictable old lady. Hee hee.
Happy Birthday. Sometimes it's just tough to say no but I think you can learn to do so.
I think so too and have been practicing it a lot! Thank you so much for the birthday wishes!
Happy birthday. I hope you didn't have to use the shotgun against intruders. Thanks for sharing on ListNerds.
LOL! So far nope, but there have been a few times that it was trotted out! Thank you so much for the birthday well-wishes!
Thank you so much!!
Congrats on your most recent cycle of the sun. Self care is really important and I think it becomes more so as we get older. The ol` aching body is testament to that.
Thank you!!
You are so right about the self-care sentiment. You should have heard the lecture I got from my new massage therapist a couple weeks ago. I'm still smarting from that lol!
Hope you aren't aching too much today with this rainy front!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY LOVELY!!! And if it is any consolation. You are WAY younger than me. Well okay, maybe not way younger but at least a whole lot of months younger. I also battle to say no. So I come across more gruff than I intend because it is easier to be avoided than to formulate the N and the O! But pruning is good. And necessary. No matter what our age or ability to say THAT word
Thank you so much!!
I wish saying no wasn't so hard! I'm getting better at it, and I wish you all the luck in the no battle!
And now, I am off to do some real life pruning, there's a wild rose bush in my yard with some dead canes that have got to go lol!
Hope all is well in your part of the world!😊
Apart from the fact that we had a bunch of COWS almost become instant steaks today......all is well. I'm too exhausted to think much at this time of night but let's just say the jury is out about their future. Ground. Flame grilled. Stewed........
Excellent write up and a belated Happy Birthday!
Good gosh, you do look young for your age. I'm 42, so I can clearly see it, lol.
running into fear and discomfort yields the greatest gains in growth.
This is so true! I cannot agree with you more.
Thank you so much!
After hand digging out a grass infested flower bed yesterday, I might be feeling all of those years this morning lol!
Hope you and your wife are having a lovely day!
Haha, work those weary old bones 😂 I need to climb into our garden myself.
Yeah, it was a good day all around. Clocking in at 5:38 am here now.
Happy Friday!
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Gosh, I'm so embarrassed I had this post open on your b-day and then I closed all tabs later because of a restart and forgot to come back.. #badbadbad
Happy belated bday my dear! <3
I hope you had a wonderful day and forgive me for being so late!
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Belated Happy Birthday! I'm glad you had a grand day!