SELF Valued PART ONE: YOUR SELF-RESPECT, ESTEEM AND WORTH DETERMINE THE WAY PEOPLE VALUE YOU

Self-respect is defined as the knowledge of one's own worth, valuing one's self; pride. Meanwhile, self-esteem is defined as the confidence in one's own worth; self-respect. Also, self-worth is known as the value one assigns to oneself or one's abilities in self assessment.

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No one can respect you than the way you respect yourself. Self-worth and self-esteem determine how people treat you. There are some factors that contributed to your self-value, esteem and respect. To gain respect self from other you must first and foremost respect yourself.
How can you respect yourself in order to gain respect from others?
This is what most people don't know.
Firstly, endeavor to stop begging people for attention: when you made yourself responsible, people will be begging to have your attention not you begging for it. Remember it's always the sick person that seek doctor's attention. When you know your worth, people will begged to be with you.

Also, never spent your time with those who doesn't know your value. Time is money, time is expensive. Works are done in time and all labours are paid for their time why then wasting it with those who doesn't know your time worth or time value.

Moreso, don't waste your time to look for those who are not looking for you. it's a lack of self-respect that caused it. It's not bad to stop looking for those who are not looking for you, it's not a pride but it shows how you value and respect not only yourself but also your time which is very important. You can't be the only person checking on your friends or colleagues always while they're too busy and serious always with their selves. It means you don't have what to do with yourself and time.

Furthermore, do you know that talking more than necessary is lack of self respect? You were given you a minute to address the people, you end up using thirty minutes only to know that what you are even saying is not relevant because people don't give attention anymore as there was a set time to talk. It's not everything you must talk. Do you know that a quite person attract more respect than a talkative? Let people begged for your opinion and they will value it than you giving your opinion when they're were not asking for it. Even if it might be very important, the will take it for granted.

Moreover, letting people know that they disrespected you immediately is a sign of self respect because you know your worth, no one has the right to trample on your value. Nobody should talk to you anyhow and this happened when you count before you speak that's knowing what comes out of your mouth especially in the public.

In today's digital world, your post on social media platform entails your self respect and value. There are post you made and it tells who you are. It quickly tell if you're mature or not. How do I know this? Comments section will tell because people will comment base on your write up.

Nevertheless, do you know that whosoever feed you controls you? Food is one of the human necessity but you shouldn't bring down your self respect because of it. You don't have to eat in people's houses more than they eat in your house. Most people are very stingy with even with themselves and most times, they think they're wise by trying to saving their money just to be eating in other people's houses.

Learn also to invest in yourself not just human capital investment in terms of skills and academics investment only but also material and food. Some people don't know how to take care of themselves. They have money but can't buy good materials to wear, they don't eat proteinous food, all the days of their life is managing. They can't even make themselves happy, Happiness prolonged life.

Do you know that people tend to respect any person who is very reasonable in talking and responding to issues? Ability to reason before airing it out brings respect. To command self-esteem is to think before talking. People tent to value what comes out of your mouth.

Moreso, do you know that you are address by the way you dress? Dressing attract respect. Your dress defines who you are. Meanwhile, people have this mindset that a responsible person should be able to look at himself or herself in the mirror before stepping out. Your appearance entails how respectful you would be.

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