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Have you ever gotten tired of something before? I'm very sure your answer will be, yes, of course!! Well you are absolutely right because I have also gotten tired of so many things. It could be walking down a very long path, it could be doing some house chores, it could be listening to an unending advice from someone, it could also be the dramas in friendship and a lot more. In fact, almost everything we do, we get tired of them at some point.
Recently I've been having issues with a few close friends of mine who think I don't give them much attention as I should and when I try explaining to them that I have things I needed to do, they just end up making me feel like a really bad person and that's what I do tell myself most times and pray it makes them feel better and when I do that, I get more tired of making people feel I'm friendly so they don't get close to me. If some of you know me well, you will know I'm someone that likes making new friends, but mind you, I don't really want to most times but there's this part of me that I just can't help, making friends is just so much fun for me.
I love making people around me feel special because it feels really good when others make me feel that way but sometimes I end up being too friendly and someone might easily think I'm being nice because there is something else going on, especially when they are an opposite sex but, hey, that's not true, the truth is, that's just me. I love treating people the way I want to be treated. That's why even when people misunderstand me, I don't feel too bad because I misunderstand others too.
AΝ ΝLΝΝOΝΝOΝΝKΝ ΝAΝΝTΝ ΝFΝΝRΝΝIΝΝEΝΝNΝΝDΝΝSΝΝHΝΝIΝΝPΝΝ
When a friend starts getting too demanding, most times we get tired of it because we start feeling obliged to them. We might end up feeling like we are not good people at all because that's the energy they send to ups. These kind of friends forget about the days when you always gave them all the attention they need and now that we are giving them less, they fail to realize that it is for a reason, they just start telling you, you are selfish just because you don't care like you use to. This kind of situation I've just explained is what I've experienced and it really hurts so much when someone we thought understood us now blame us without caring to listen to us but always wants us to listen to them.
Today from the so many things we could get tired of, I've chosen to focus on FRIENDSHIP because even friendship gets tiring sometimes, maybe when the persons involved always read meaning to the silence of the other person instead of asking why they are silent, they choose to think they are no longer important to us, at least I've experienced this π. Well that is true but it can only happen when we refuse to ask "why?" when we should have.
ΝLΝΝOΝΝOΝΝKΝΝIΝΝNΝΝGΝ ΝFΝΝOΝΝRΝΝWΝΝAΝΝRΝΝDΝ
Friends are people that should be there for us no matter what and that makes it very hard to find a true friend so we just have to be very careful when choosing someone we can call a friend because it's not we can get easily, true friendship is almost priceless and that's why we have to cherish those friends that are always quick to see that we are acting strange and ask what is wrong and also make sure we feel better without judging us too much.
I have so much to say on this because I recently experienced something similar and now I'm really tired of this friendship because my friend forgot there is something called PRIVACY and when it is not respected in any relationship, it could make such friendships really tiring to those who are involved in it. Well, I would love to hear some of your interesting thoughts on this and please feel free to say what you want to say, I'm more than ready to give a reply and learn from your point of view too.
For me I will say, any one who doesnβt respect your privacy or reciprocate the opposite of what you give you isnβt your friend. Itβs annoying when you put so much into a friendship and get little or no energy. So itβs best you just choose your friends wisely and cut off the ones who drains your energy β€οΈπ«
That's totally understandable. Most times we are often worried when we are not given some level of attention in a friendship but I think it's also good we try to understand why the other party is having little or no time for us first before making the decision of moving on or not.
Thank you so much for stopping by and leaving such beautiful comment dear, I really appreciate it π.
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Dear friend @hopestylist , it always feels so good when you have a very special friend you can count on at any time. Life feels very empty without friends. And thanks for being one of the good people here in this community.
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Indeed that's right. I'm really so happy you stopped by and it's a really great privilege to have you here too π₯°.
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Smiles nice of you to think of these. What goes around comes around I guess. Knowing this and admiring makes this post very interesting dear. No body is perfect we all trying to work on ourselves to at least fit in.
One when interesting thing about friendship is know when to stop and where your boundaries limits exceeds. Personally I hold this word in high extreme for I love my space and I espect others to respect that, for as much as I hate being Always bug I hate doing it to some one else.
If we all know when and how to relate we others we will all do just fine.
Thanks for sharing this with us dearπ₯°
I love this comment son, you've just made my write up a lot clearer, thank you so much.
Indeed we all will get a taste of wheat we serve that why we have to be very careful of what we dish out to people because it's going to come back to us most times.
Privacy is something that can make friendship last for a very long time but if they pry into each other's lives too much, such friendships are bound to face some difficulties, well said dear.
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Hey, this is relatable as Iβve been in a similar scenario.
Toxicity in friendships is a real thing that isnβt talked about much. Prioritize your peace & leave friendships that are mentally draining for you, itβs hard sometimes but in the end, itβs always the best option.
Self love and peace of mind over anything, any day and anytime!π
Hya, I'm so happy you took out time to leave sure a beautiful advice, indeed peace of mind comes in first before any friendships. The true is we actually make friends so we can have peace of mind and once we start getting threaten, then I don't see any need to try to please them.
Really valuable addition, I truly appreciate it.
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True some friends do need more attention than others. Usually I cut off ties with them because I protect my alone time my alone time is very important to assess what I done and what I can do better.
Most people don't know this and will never know who my real friends are because some friends I don't let them meet with my other friends I call these people my private friends no one will know them I won't let introduce them to anyone either unless it's beneficial.
These special friends I have they understood that we are adults we may speak to each other when we have to sometimes weekly once sometimes after months then we text or call sometimes we even meet up to catch up usually when we meet it's the hardest because both parties will tell each other what you did wrong and what you can improve its not personal attacks but it's pushing each other to grow which is stressful sometimes haha π€£ but we need these type of friends who are honest and brutal.
I hope you have special friends as well @hopestylist take care and keep safe always
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Wow, you have a very good way of keeping your life in the line you want it as regards keeping friends. The problem sometimes is because some friends feel is their right to be around you whenever they feel like but it just doesn't work like that.
I do have special friends too @caelum1infernum and they are the only ones that lighten my mood.
Thank you so much for stopping by and leaving your comment.
Yup some things we need to have control over especially when it comes to our health. Toxic friends should be thrown out my health is very important to me because without my health I can't take care of my family.
True need to set boundaries and usually I just tell them to their face what can and cannot do just sit and talk most of the time for me I tell them three times because I believe in giving people chances after third time same cycle time to cut off ties. I find that my life is calmer that way than to force friendship but I am addicted to be alone most of the time haha π€£ maybe depends on the individual I guess.
I'm very happy to hear this. This is true friends. The real ones.
I love how you understand my words, it's making me really happy, thank you so much for your contribution @caelum1infernum, I'm so happy you stopped by.
You've spoken really well and I'd love to agree with you so I can avoid saying the same thing again.
I literally followed every single line to the very end.. And this is very interesting...
Many are of the view that friends need constant chatting, talking and the rest to keep the conversation and the friendship alive but I feel the opposite.
Friends are suppose to have enough time for themselves to be able to work their future out for themselves and by themselves, and when your whole time is being spent on building friendship I feel it's a whole waste of time and resources.
I'm so glad you took your time to read it. I for one I believe is only right that friends have time for themselves too and not pry into each other's business too much or else it might get tiring.
Thank you for your contribution dear, I really appreciate it.
Aah friendships hey... they challenge us so much... I can overthink things !LOLZ and when people go silent on me... I am often thinking... eish what did I do? is it me? Is it them? Always best just to have the talk π€ !LUV !ALIVE
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Yes it happens to a lot of us, it feels so good to know that there is someone who wants to listen to all we have to say and it's also good to know when to end a conversation no matter how interesting it might sound to us.
Thank you so much for stopping by and leaving your comment Sam β€οΈ, it's been a while and I'm really happy you got to visit me today.
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aw, I've missed you, Hope! Did you have an amazing birthday? I am trying to get into a better routine to visit people... trying to manage so many things on chain and offchain... I wish I could clone myself some days !LOLZ !LUV
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I've missed you too, like a lot but I understand you are very busy with a lot of engagements so it's fine. I really do hope you get to balance things up too π₯°π₯°.
I had a great day but I didn't celebrate it but someone took me out on Sunday and it was really fun. Thanks for asking π₯°.
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Omoh I accepted the truth of my person and lost a lot of friends a long time ago. The truth is, you can not always be at their level. they either rise to meet you or leave you. I can not be growing and have a nonentity as a friend. Friends do not add to your burden, they try to alleviate you. Once they begin to pull out the emotional blackmail card it means two things!
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In my opinion babe, if they can not work with you, they do not deserve you!!
I'm so glad you could see things in that direction, having a friend should be that almost half of your burden is lessen and not the other way around. No wonder they say, we should choose our friends and not let our friends choose us. We face this type of problem more when we let our friends choose us.
Your contribution is just so beautiful and relatable, thank you so much for stopping by and leaving such an amazing comment, it's always a pleasure to have you stop by.
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I completely understand you. I get upset when my friends start using the "you just abandoned me" line. It's like this, as we age, we get busier by the day, and everyone is busy trying to get their lives back together. If we haven't spoken in a week, it's because neither of us reached out, so why should I be the one to blame?
I just spoke to a friend for over thirty minutes on the phone. I spent the better part of that duration apologizing for not calling for a bit. My friend completely forgot the fact that I chat with her every now and then.
The thing is, we used to talk almost every day back then, but it's just not possible anymore. Now, all I get is that I'm too proud and I'm feeling too big. It hurts me really. Great post.
Awesome, I see you are in the same place as me, it's just really painful when we get the blame for what we both did. I always try my best to accept when someone says sorry for not calling after a while because I know I too don't call every now and then.
But it's just so annoying when I apologize to you and you tell me junks, in fact I will never be interested to call you again because even if I do, you will say it's because you reminded me, lol. In friendship it's not a wise idea to use calls as a yardstick to know if the person is caring or not, especially in our world today where everyone is busy looking for his or her daily bread.
Thank you for leaving such a wonderful contribution dear, I really appreciate it.
Exactly. It's sickening and tiring. I'm glad you get me.
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I understand you very well because I'm in that situation right now.
You are valued my dear π₯°.
That's a shame, I've gone through similar situations too. But, hard times let you know who your true friends are. I've had friends I'd hang around with constantly and after a week or two of not seeing them it's like we're strangers, on the flip side I've had friends who I've gone years not seeing or talking with and as soon as we meet back up it's as if nothing changed.
Some relationships are easy to maintain and some can be so hard, some people like being involved in every aspect of someone's life to the point where there are no boundaries, and others would rather remain private. Each person is different and most people know not to push boundaries, the ones that do push boundaries though are good to find out how much you're willing to tolerate and how patient you are.
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Everyone is different. Sometimes I want friendship and sometimes I don't want friendship. But sometimes they are needed and sometimes they are annoying.
I understand your plight concerning your privacy. Privacy is very important in a relationship and friendship and I would appreciate every friend of mine to respect my privacy because if you don't it might cause conflict between us.
What I would say is, talk to your friend that's if you want the friendship to last for a long time...there's a way you can throw the talk to her to avoid her feeling somehow and if she's matured enough she would apologize and adjust.
Yes dear you are right, everyone is different. It's really hard to explain to people sometimes that you need some lone time and it's just so frustrating.
I hate it when I try to explain one thing every time, it's really so tiring but we are humans after all, we need to be patient with ourselves.
Thank you so much for the advice, I have tried that but it's as if I'm not saying it too clearly or something.
And that is why you are a special partner to me:)
Friends making you feel like that, are they really friends that you want partner?
Awwn, you always have a way of me feel special and always putting a smile on my face, thank you so much partner.
I think they are not friends but getting over them keeps getting difficult because they keep begging for me to forgive them π.
WEll, I like you smiling partner, so if my words work then that is awesome!
Yeah they do not sound good for you...
Yes partner, your words do make me smile, a lot βΊοΈ.
Thank you so much for your advice partner π₯°π₯°β€οΈ.
Aww my pleasure partner:)
Have a beautiful Sunday partner π₯°π.
Thank you partner, I hope that yours was good :)
You're always welcome partner... Mine was good too partner.
Oh I am so glad to hear that!
I'm happy you are π₯°.
hehe good and why are you not asleep partner ?
I had some sleep in the afternoon, but I'm about going to bed now.
ah okay, me too;)
Yeah, good morning partner π₯°π₯°.
So true, although I have come to learn that not everyone can understand you, even your best friends can still miss an important part of you
You are absolutely right, we can't understand everything about a person but at least we should know what they like and what they don't as that will help all lot in keeping a friendship.
Thank you for stopping by and leaving your amazing comment, I truly appreciate it.