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Tima Miroshnichenko

Last week Monday, my niece showed me a photo on her phone of a pregnancy test kit with two red lines on it. I half-mindedly asked if it was hers and she smiled, continued to share she's 2 months pregnant. Shock came right through me and it was probably very evident on my reaction. I could not speak until some minutes later when I finally found my tongue and said "Oh wow, congratulations."

I knew she has a boyfriend but never really thought they'd be that fast, lol! Well, she lives with my parents (although not literally). She occupies the third floor of their house, about two-thirds of it. So maybe I expected a little too much of her, that she wouldn't go that far. But at this day and age, who am I kidding right?

No, I'm not the overly conservative type and I'm happy to have another grandkid...

Just that she'll be turning 25 real soon and she's still the laziest to do things, let alone clean any mess or sweep her bedroom at least. Last week, I literally had to tell her to clean up the dog poop which were splattered all over the floor of the storeroom upstairs at my parents. She had the pups play and do their things in the room when she knew there are foodstuffs and medicines stored up there.

Went up to check mum's meds yesterday and I found out that she just scooped the poops off the floor, tossed them on a box, covered the floor with rags and left them just like that. I was truly disgusted and upset but I quietly took them out myself and quickly went downstairs or I might start yapping at her. I doubt if she mopped the floor. Her grandpa is unhappy too of how untidy the place had become.


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And now, she's having a baby...

It's quite hard to admit but it really bothered me and thoughts like, "How much more when she gives birth? Would she learn how to clean by then? Would she not just toss her baby's diapers here and there?" come a little too often on my mind. Maybe I'm just thinking way too much.

On the other hand, I'm also hoping that perhaps now that she's going to be a mother, she will start to think and act a little more maturely. Their mom (my sister) spoilt them from since they were young.

"Why do you stress yourself with something you have no control over?" the Farmboy scolded me yesterday when I was whining about how my niece is behaving. But I simply cannot help it. I cringed while scrubbing my parent's toilet and bath which my niece uses as well but doesn't seem to mind even when it's dirty. Or maybe I'm just way too obsessive?

Meanwhile, they are out today and right now, I'm absolutely in need of a long walk to clear this clog off my thoughts.

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Awww. Your concerns are understandable. Messy is one thing but poop on the floor when there's about to be a baby is another! Hopefully she can go to a parenting class or something maybe?

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Pati ako nadisgust sis..
Pero mind me, ganyan kapatid ko na spoiled bratt dati.. Can't even clean her room..lazy to help mom do house chores...only like going out with friends. But when she got pregnant and gave birth to her baby, she changed and became responsible 😊.. Now she's living with her bf's family and doing business..seems like she learned how to stand on her own after we let go of her.. !LADY
Hope your niece will change as well..she can't just let your parents clean her mess...what a shame..

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Maybe I'm just thinking way too much.

No, you are not. If I'm to be in your shoe I will probably think or feel the same. A girl in her age should do better regarding cleaning the house.

Mom (my sister) spoilt them from when they were young.

Hmmm, I see where it came from. I have a half-sister like this spoilt by our grandmother right from when she was little and now It is hard to get her shit together even after having kids.

But Farmboy is right, please don't stress yourself too much over this. And that long walk is a great idea.

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It's tough when youngsters are spoiled for they find it hard to adjust. But I hope my niece will learn along the way.

The long walk didn't happen, just a short one, lol! It was nearing lunch time so I ended up coming back home quickly. It was a good one though :)

Thank you !LADY ❤️

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But I hope my niece will learn along the way.

With her baby on the way, that might just what will make her level up.

I wish her all the best and congratulations for the little angel coming on the way❤🥰

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oh my goodness! I think you are right to be concerned. One does not all of a sudden just flip a switch when they become a parent and become clean. She needs to be taught. If the baby is to remain healthy it needs to be in a clean environment.

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That's true, Joe :) I'm hopeful that she will learn eventually.
!PIZZA

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The concerns are legit. It is expected for everyone to be responsible. Coz how can she take care of her baby/family when she can't even start with herself. I just hope she change her ways.

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hope for best that she will look at more care about herself. I must pray for her.
God bless you

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Oh, that is so awesome of you :) Thank you and yes, I believe she will learn soon enough.
Many thanks for your kind words and may the Heavens bless you too !LADY😍

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Oh I completely understand with you dearest @ifarmgirl. And I hope for the sake of that baby that she learns how to be a little domestic, if not for herself then for the child's health and wellbeing but in the meantime, I'm glad you went out for a walk to clear your thoughts and I get your title now. It's literal and figurative. Hugs.🌺

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Thank you mi !LADY 🤩

I'm very hopeful that she will be more responsible sooner. She's gonna be a mama😊

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That's a great news. Congratulations 😊.
Although I am a kid but I think you are thinking a lot and it's not necessary. I believe become a mother naturally give her many lessons and will make her more mature. But it's true she need the help of yours in various cases.

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Awww, thank you 😊 Indeed a great news and like you said, she will learn along the way. It's awesome that whilst you are a kid, you are thinking like a grown up man 😊

!PIZZA

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It's awesome that whilst you are a kid, you are thinking like a grown up man 😊

Thank you for the nice compliment. I am a kid means I am now 24 already. I am a kid compared to you but am I actually a kid? What do you think?😅😅

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Ahaha! You got me there. I thought you are still a teenager 😅😅 so no, you're definitely a grown up man, lol!

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I know a lot of people who love it when everywhere is well arranged but things changed after they gave birth...
I hope she changes as soon as possible. It will help her train her child neatly

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That is understandable, with a baby or kids in the house, it is tough to keep things organized.

Thank you and I'm hopeful she does :) She ought to learn along the way.

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Your thoughts are justified and understandable. She is old enough to assist and now she brings another life into the picture. Let’s home her behavior will change. It could happen however change takes effort. I hope for the best because although 25 - she still needs to grow up.

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I'm truly hopeful this stage of her life will make her grow up. Thank you :)

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Oh, boy... 😃
When I got my kiddo, I was 28, and my wife was 26, so a similar age as your niece... Yes, it was early, but both of us had jobs, and we weren't super-experts in taking care of the house or such... But, I did have friends that were like your niece, and after getting a child, they have changed a lot and become more responsible...

I suppose that the problem with house chores is that while there is someone else who is doing them, they will not start doing them... I know that it hurts to see a dirty home, but she will never learn if you doing her job...

Don't worry too much... It's her life and she will eventually realize that... 😃

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Kids these days can be challenging to understand but I'm hopeful that like some of your friends who became more responsible, my niece would too :-)

I suppose that the problem with house chores is that while there is someone else who is doing them, they will not start doing them... I know that it hurts to see a dirty home, but she will never learn if you doing her job...

This is very true. I tried not doing anything for days to see if she will step up but oh boy, lol! Will see how it goes as I might be going home to the other place soon. Thank you lots for your highlights and for these advice. Sometimes I simply overthink and worry too much😂

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Believe me, I understand you... I'm also a bit obsessive with certain things... lol... I know it's not good to do something that my son should do, but I can't wait for him... Patience... breathe... 😂
The worst thing is that we think that we are doing good for them, but it is vice-versa... It's like when grandparents spoil children... :)

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Thank you :) Breathing in and out today, lol!

The worst thing is that we think that we are doing good for them, but it is vice-versa... It's like when grandparents spoil children... :)

Truth. We aren't really helping them but making it worst. I now have to resist going up there and let her be, lol!

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No, I'm not the overly conservative type and I'm happy to have another grandkid...

Congratulations on your newest grandkid that is on the way, I really hope this child changes the narrative of your niece's life😃

PS: I love how you address you husband in your posts😄

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Yay! Thank you lots and yes, will be welcoming my second grandkid 😍

PS: I love how you address you husband in your posts😄

Haha. It's how it is, either The husband or the Farmboy😉

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Arhh, if I were in your foot? I would scold her over and over again . That one of the traits I hated most...laziness at home and couldn't clean even the room ..that would make my blood boil...

But yeah, hoping she would change

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Haha, I would but chose not to. May need to talk to her mom soon, sis.😊

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On the other hand, I'm also hoping that perhaps now that she's going to be a mother, she will start to think and act a little more maturely.

That is for sure. 🤗 The responsibility of being a mother will take control of her I'm sure of it. I've experienced a similar thing with my aunts. They were also foolish and childish during their 1st pregnancy but after the baby became like 1 year old, they were mature already and thinking about the future of the baby.
I really wish a good healthy and happy pregnancy to her and good luck to you all 🤗🤗

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Yes, it's something I'm really hopeful about. Motherhood does make a person change :)
Thank you for your good wishes and have a wonderful day to you.
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I dont think anyone in your situation would be happy, let alone easily stop thinking about it. Her hygiene level is something to worry about, and much more as her actions are affecting the older family members. You just have to calm down a little no matter how hard it will be, and follow here easy. Their mum your sister spoilt them and nothing would be automatic here. So just try to calmly correct here, and clean the much you could.

Hoping she becomes more responsible as she matures.

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That's true too, it may take a while for her to take ahold of things but she will find her way, eventually. Thank you, Charles :)

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On the other hand, I'm also hoping that perhaps now that she's going to be a mother, she will start to think and act a little more maturely. Their mom (my sister) spoilt them from since they were young.

The same thoughts came to mind. Also, a lot depends on her boyfriend. I assume he is under her control, not the other way around.)

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Hope they learn their way through. 🙏
Thank you Alex😉

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They'll have to do it.) !LOLZ
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An example is famous here in Pakistan that even when a person is burdened with work, they start doing the way you are telling that it doesn't work at all, when their baby comes, they have to do the work themselves. it will have to be done.

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That makes sense :) It will be good to see them learn on their own and not to be told what to do. Thank you😉

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It is really disgusting to live with people who don't care. Who find it difficult to keep there environment clean. You just need to take it easy with yourself and watch her do better.

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Thank you lots for your words :) She will learn eventually😊
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Smiless...Well, it is very okay to show concerns... It means you love them. As for what you're worried about, she's gonna learn with time, I believe. Experience would teach her.

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Thank you, Vic. She will indeed :) And true too, experience is the best teacher so she will eventually find her own way.

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That’s a tough situation for sure. Hopefully they straighten out because it’s not just their own lives they are putting at risk for having such a poor work habit of cleaning but now a baby. I hope it turns out to be a positive situation! It does change some people, while others it sadly doesn’t. Toughest part is a poor baby is stuck between.

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