#WeekndWthBestie a.k.a. Adulting 101💪 feat. Lessons Learned About Work🙏

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"Jong, this weekend," a chat that sounds urgent. You know how when you know a person for too long that just a single three-worded message and boom- the imaginary blaring red emergency light is blazing your eyes. Given that my bestie Haj rarely uses Messenger, I know these chats from him are pretty serious.

"Sure. Same place?" I respond. No matter how busy I get I will always have time for my circle - the people who matter to me. "I cannot wait to tell you everything" was my bestie's response.

Haj usually travels about two hours (2 and ½ if the traffic's bad) to get here in the city. So I know how important it must be that he's going to spend "that much number of hours" just so he can meet with me.

Here are two things I have learned from our "rather lengthy" conversation that day:
One. You get a say in work stuff because hey that is your work and nobody knows it better than you do; and
Two. It is not healthy to isolate yourself in the workplace. Connect to people, or at least one person. Healthy work relationship is as important as our personal ones.

As you would deduce from above - yes the "urgency" was all about 'work stuff". My bestie was having problems dealing with bossy workmates who tell him what to do - even when they are of the same level; they are not his supervisors. As such he is distancing himself from his workmates causing troubles because he also distanced from the ones whom he became close with.

I told him that I could well relate to these work scenarios because I too am not exempt from this, with the previous roles I had.

I told him that while it is difficult to fully trust people in the work place it is vital that he trusts at least one person, with whom he can share work rant etc with. He can also deal with the "superior-ish" kinds of fellows by first going to his supervisor to talk about it and having a team meeting discussing the issue at hand. Clear communication is key to avoid a toxic work set-up.

I was just glad that he felt better after our catch-up talk and thanked me for the input I have shared.

It is always a privelege to me when my friends ask advice from me because it is an opportunity to help them and help myself improve, on some social and mental aspects, you know. 😊


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