Be A Man My Son!

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Dear all Discover-it community members, let me introduce myself to this community. I am from Indonesia, I am a father with three children. I have a son and two daughters. I like writing, photography, and cooking. I live in Bekasi, which is a small city in the east of Jakarta.
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My neighborhood's children's life cycle

Every country has a different culture. In Indonesia, the child's life cycle is also different. Children who come from middle-class families have their own circle of friends. Their lives are organized. They will have scheduled activities after school, including sports clubs, music classes , or additional classes after school. They can not go out freely.

It is different from my kid and his friends in my community. Children always go out everyday. They will do a lot of things, from riding bikes to playing soccer.
I have a son. He is more active than his sisters. He gets along easily with his peers.

This afternoon, he played out with his mates in a Toll Street development area. The toll street workers have been off for a long time. The location becomes a playground for kids.
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I did not give my son permission to play at the Toll street location because it is a little far from my house, but how can I prevent him from going there?

Instead of banning him from playing, I prefer to give him some notes when they go to the Toll street. He should go with a large group of kids. I will not give permission if he goes to the location alone, two or three people.
In the first lockdown last year, I prohibited my kids from playing out. What happened then? My son had a tantrum. He often got angry with me and his mom. He also disturbed his sisters. I thought my son had too much energy to stay quiet at home.

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In January 2022, schooling began. Children go to school everyday but the class size is limited. My son only studies at school from 7;30 AM to 9;00 AM. Most kids in my community will play out after school.

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That is the picture of my son's school. Parents will pick up their kids at school at 9;00 AM.
Does my son want to be a soccer player? Most of the kids play soccer for fun. They spend their energy on physical activities. They like soccer and some of them idolize local and international players, but they do not think of being professional soccer players.

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Having dreams is a good thing, but for most of us, life is like water. What do we want our child to be? We will see when he grows up. As a parent, I will only take my child to graduate school and, if possible, go to university. After that, it is my son who will determine the course of his life.
As a father, I just want my son to be a man because the role of men is very vital in our culture. A man must support his family financially and protect them. All parents want their children to be successful in their careers, and so do I. I let my child play out so that he would be good at socializing and dealing with his own problems. Be a man, my son!
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