It's not wrong to ask for friends. It's hard to stand in this world alone. You never know if it kills you not to be able to say what you feel or something. Friends are not that important but it's part of you to beautify your life. Though others value them so much their friends but then again it's not a bad thing. It's just that if you're being too attached to them you may feel like dying inside when they'll leave.

People come and go, a part of life to welcome a new one. Of course, it hurts, it's not easy to let go of those people who are part of you. It may not be comparable when someone dear to you will die. Even so, knowing that they will leave and you may not see each other again despite the closeness to each other. Damn, it hurts so much that it's hard to accept it. What can we do, the hurtful truth of life.

I'm not saying to prevent yourself from cherishing the people surrounds you. Not treating the people or friends with love because you're too coward to face what will happen in the future since you're not a family. Distance to each other might come and that's what you're afraid of the most.

From the very beginning accept it and be ready with it. Bear the pain because that's how loving someone should be. Let them fly like a butterfly to provide beauty to the flowers. Let your friends go with love because they have reasons and we should understand it. We never know that someone might wait for them and we're the reason for others' loneliness. It will be selfish for you if that happens and the fearful truth might come that it's only you being happy, not your friends.

I was reading the post of @itsmiessyyoupeakd about the birthday of @purepinay. While reading comments before I'd thought to do comment. I read the comment of @sassycebuana that filled me with sadness because in time @purepinay might leave. I'm not part of their circle of friends and haven't met them in person. I just followed the journey for both of them but I don't understand. Something pierced my heart that got me emotional all of a sudden. It motivated me to write this because for you to know. I can write something whenever I'm sad. Yeah, the sadness mixed in the air that I breathe.

This is one of the painful things in our life. When someone goes because it's like being destined to happen. I'm not saying it should be stopped because I already explained a butterfly story. Let them go even though it's unbearable. Let them be even though it means breaking our hearts.

Looking back on the memories you shared. The time well spent because of that friend is amazing. The sweet smile showed because of the company. The unexpected meet-up because you thought nothing but to see each other. The loud laughter you shared because it's just felt so awesome with that conversation. The time that you wish it wouldn't end or it would happen again and again.

Those are the reasons why? I could tell because even I, felt it before. Just imagine what you did before will never happen again. If it will, you're not that sure if it will be. It hurts I know and no words can fool what you're feeling. Even if you force yourself to believe that everything will be alright, for sure. However, you need to let it go and stop pretending.

Let yourself cry when the goodbyes happen. Don't be ashamed to cry because you'll think the tears are too much for the friendship. Say anything that you want to say and don't let yourself regret it later, it will hurt you more. Spend more time before the goodbyes. Don't be afraid to feel the pain at that time because pain is worth feeling for someone worthy.

Just be honest and be thankful. No need to elaborate the gratitude because it just means everything. You are grateful for him/her and there's no need to specify it. Always think that we may not want it. It will happen and what we can do is support them with love even though tears are shed. That's what it means to treat someone special. Not just a friend but also a family or even like loved ones. That's why don't be afraid of goodbyes since the memories you have together will never be forgotten. Pain is just the counterpart of loving someone. Endure it and you will be fine after. What's important is, you found a person whom you can call a "true friend."

Thank you for reading

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_{Paul is the name but prefers to be called mrnightmare that feels like living in the dream. A country boy and a dreamboy (dreamer) who likes to stay in a small village even though it means abandoning the future to become a seaman. The passion is writing but not sailing in the vast ocean. Don't wonder if the face will not be shown, this is better where the words can flow smoothly. Come, have fun with me and be part of my journey while talking about life events and random activities. It's fun to learn about life, don't hesitate, let's figure it out as we continue enjoying staying in this world.}

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