The Struggle Of Staying With Your Parents After University.

Now this here is a very big be struggle for all the youths who have graduated, haven't found a job or a steady source of income and is still staying with his or her parents.

the inspiration to write this post, came form a post I saw on twitter, about someone pouring out his heart on his experience living with his parents, before he got his own place, so I decided to share mine own experience here on Hive.

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my own story started after my National Youth Service Corp (NYSC), a 1year program organized by the federal government for all graduates in my country, while I was doing my NYSC my parents wanted every little opportunity for me to come home, to spend time with them. when I was finally done with NYSC, where I did my NYSC a media house, the company wanted to retain me as a staff but the pay was so low that it couldn't pay my house rent after 11months of receiving my salary, so I rejected the offer and went back home to the family house.

the fact that my parents wanted me around during my service (NYSC), when I got home I was treated like a king for the first 2 weeks or a week i guess because they haven't seen me for a year, after that the really struggled started, trust me any Nigerian youth in this situation understand and can relate to what am talking about, I didn't know if anyone from another country can relate to this situation though.

now back to my story, I became responsible for every single thing in the house, I became the driver, cleaner, cook at times, errand person, house manager, infact any other thing you can think of, I was in charge of it.

I was cool with managing the house part, but I think African parents enjoy testing their children's patients, mostly when you have graduated and don't have a job yet. I don't know if they do it intentionally or unconsciously to push their children to the wall, with little little errands, like call you to come upstairs and what they want you to get for them is downstairs, instead of them to tell you, bring that stuff for me as you are coming upstairs, they wait for you to get upstairs first them tell what they need is downstairs.

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the once that really get to me, is when they calling to me and rush out of my room to answer the call, then get asked to change the TV channel which they can actually change on their own and the TV remote is right in front of them, In my mind am like you could have easy changed the channel yourself without calling me.

most of the time I barely sleep at night and they know that, but that doesn't stop them from waking me up from sleep, to open the door which in my opinion they can actually do at ease with no stress but I must be the one to do so.

some times I literally get sent on three to four different errands at the same time and they expect me to finish them all at the time they want or need it, if don't everything done when they want it, the next thing i hear from my father or mother is, I will send you to do something and you won't do it, trying to guilt trip me, which doesn't work on me, because I know I was actually attending to another errand by them, but the guilt tripping works on my sister all the time.

Another one is that really gets to me, there will be a bottle of water and cup right in front of them and they will still call me to pour the water inside the cup for them to drink, like you can actually pour the water yourself and drink it, without me being the one to put it in the cup, if I get upset and frowning my face, I get hit with statements like I have a child should I go an find one outside or leave it I will do it myself. if you respond to the beautifully set trap, it becomes a problem, and then when you don't respond it becomes a problem also, in this situation the is no right response, anything you do is wrong so I just stay mute so I don't say something or do something I will regret. because after all they are still my parents and I LOVE THEM SO MUCH.