RE: The Dollar Or Naira Value Of Love: How Much Can You Afford?

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๐Ÿ˜‚ Your aunt loves you too much and she's really craving a wedding party, the loan part got me. I've heard about people having debts for throwing parties way bigger than their financial capabilities but bride price?

Infact, I thought they stopped collecting that already. Someone told me recently that it's just for the culture and most families actually return it on the basis that they're not selling their daughter. Thank God you know and stand for what you want, else...๐Ÿ˜‚

Good for your cousin. I can imagine them being the models for the "couple goals" movement ๐Ÿ˜‚. And you can just be optimistic and wish them the best. They're in it already and God help them.

Yeah, so many things have come under the umbrella "love" these days and people are now marry for various ridiculous reasons. I would reason like you if I were in the same shoes.

For the convincing part, I don't think that can be completely eradicated. As a lady, I want to be sure the guy truly likes me too, you can attest to the fact that many people of your gender are (I can't find the word: dangerous? Deceptive?๐Ÿ˜‚). Well, you'll still need some convincing too if the trust is there but the trust is usually the big issue.

And as for her not being a scam, I feel you'll be a great judge at that. I don't know how you guys do it but I don't think I'll ever want to be with someone I don't know to a substantial level. I think friendship is a great idea at first. Building a friendship basically answers most of your questions. That's when you decide if she's trustworthy and you gain her trust as well. And you subtly tell her of your intentions, as a girl, I wouldn't want a guy shoving his feelings on me, nah. Be subtle but clear. You can tell if she's receptive or not. All that time, you're already sure she's reasonable.

As for providing, you can always discuss that friendship almost courtship level. You can basically get to know how they reason, some mindsets are dangerous ๐Ÿ˜‚. And people are very good at pretending these days, you can't tell people apart from nollywood these days, may God grant us discernment๐Ÿ˜‚.

I think this already is a post under a post. These are just my personal opinions about your ruminations.
And one thing I'll say is don't think it too much. Don't amplify the fears, they might try to hold you back even when you meet the "right" person. My personal opinion. You'll be just fine โค๏ธ



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In reality the igbos still collect heavy and huge bride prices, I recently buried my mum and I still had to pay a lot of money to the family which has left me in the financial situation I am currently. Sometimes people are actually selling their daughter when they say they're not selling them, and I have particular seen where parents are choosing spouses for their children simply because they want to milk the cow (the groom to be)

A lot of situation that involves this attraction of a thing can be ridiculous and you are right when you say deception is always flying all around.

I don't know how the whole thing works. But what I feel is that I have seen so much fakery in life and fakery is what I'm always wary of, there's always a hidden agenda. It's always beauty, looks or money. It's so tiring and frustrating.

Well a lot of people discern amiss even when they think they're doing it rightly. I don't want to reveal too much, but the reality of the situation is that it's tough out there. It's the jungle out there.

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So true...its a freaking jungle bro. Its how both sides want traditional conservative men or women with a slice of freakiness...Na God hand ih dey sha

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Wow. That's super serious.

Eweee. Make God just dey help person. For this Nigeria ehn, boya singleness is sweet o, make we dey enjoy "singlehood" go ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚.

It's all going to be fine, I'm sure.

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Thank you for that blistering comment... Phew!!! You blew me away.

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