TIPS TO LIVING A BETTER LIFE || THE BATTLE BETWEEN WHAT YOU CAN CHANGE VS WHAT YOU CAN'T

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We may dislike our current situation and be concerned about what we can do about it. We worry during these times, and we waste a lot of time on things that do not contribute to our personal development. The real key to living a better life is to pay attention to where your mind and focus are and whether or not they contribute to your progress.

If something bothers you, ask yourself, "Is it within my power to make this change?" If it is, work towards it; if it is not, put your mind off it and focus on what is within your power to do. Spending more time on things you can't change will lead to frustration and depression, which will affect your life negatively.

Here are three things in life that you cannot change and should stop worrying about:


THE PAST


Why be concerned about the past when it is referred to as the past? If something happens, we should focus on the present while attempting to shape the future. The past remains in the past, which is why it is referred to as "the past," and we should not dwell on it too much.


THE OPINION OF PEOPLE ABOUT YOU

Many people are concerned about this most of the time, and they work hard to change what others think of them, but they forget that we have no control over what others think. We can only change our opinions and thoughts, not the other way around. The best we can do is continue to be ourselves and hope they understand better.


THE BEHAVIOUR OF OTHERS

We have no control over how people behave in the same way that we have no control over their thoughts. People will always be who they are, and they can only be changed if they choose to change. Everything comes down to their individual choices, over which we have no control.


Others we cannot change, but when we notice them, we should redirect our attention to something more productive. I've listed the most important thing we can change in our lives below

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JUST ONE MAJOR THING YOU NEED TO CHANGE AND WORK ON TO LIVE A BETTER LIFE

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OUR MINDSET

The main difference between successful and unsuccessful people is their mindset. We can only improve our lives if we work on the information we feed it, how we think, and our outlook on life.

This has a greater direct impact than we realise, which is why I work hard to secure what I feed my mind, what I watch and see. Because our actions are based on what is in our minds, you become what you feed your mind indirectly.

It's been said that your ability is limited by how you think. So, wealthy people think differently than poor people; they feed themselves various types of information that affect their lives because that is what they can change and build on.

The type of mindset that people have nowadays is further divided into two different types:

  • Fixed Mindset

Those with a fixed mindset live their lives based on their current circumstances. They are constrained by their failures and lack the motivation to aim higher and fight for their dreams. They are the type of people who live in the past and are influenced by their past experiences, rather than living the life they are meant to live in the present.

There are a lot of people who have this kind of mindset, which is why so many people give up and commit suicide nowadays. They have all been labelled as having a fixed mindset.

  • Growth Mindset

As the name implies, they are not constrained by the circumstances of their current lives. They believe things can be better and devote their efforts to making them so. They don't dwell on the past, but instead focus on what's happening now.

People with a growth mindset understand that their current situation is not permanent and that there is hope for a better future. This is why, when you find one, you will always see them putting everything they have because they understand that their future is dependent on the actions they take now.


There is a lot to say about what you can change, but changing your mindset, in my opinion, covers almost everything you need to live a better life. If you examine all of the other things you can change, you will see that they all fall under the category of needing to change your mindset.

The mind is extremely powerful, and it is where our decisions, thoughts, and actions are generated. So what else do you need to change, especially if it isn't your mind?

Work on your mindset, and then you would see changes in your life..


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I can't see anything less than the truth in this. You can't be more right! Trying to change people's opinions or please everyone is a great way to waste time and creative energy. Eventually you'll realize all the effort isn't actually worth it because you can't control how people think and react.

And for people who live in the past, they always will because in the future they'll regret their present, wishing they'd done things differently.

but changing your mindset, in my opinion, covers almost everything you need to live a better life.

This is what some people will never understand, that it's not about having money or dressing fine, that's why some people will talk and I'll just be sad πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ because why all this packaging? The package is looking so great but the content is extremely disappointing. Wealth, elegance, even royalty, na mindset dey influence everything, it's the mind that eventually translates to the physical.

And oh yes, intentionality on what you feed your mind, the earlier people realize it the better, if we don't catch ourselves in time it's so easy to slip on that one.

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A perfect analysis of everything point I was trying to drive. What hits me most is that you said the mind eventually translates to the physical because it true.

No invention today made it to reality without passing through the mind of a person.

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This is lovely and educative, thanks for sharing. It's true we can't change our past, also we can't change what people thinks about us likewise we can't change how people behaves unless they choose to change themselves, and I have come to realize this that's why I always try to be myself anywhere I find myself not minding what people thought about me. As newbie on Hive blockchain, in my introductory post I stated this particular point there that some people thought I'm a proud person which is not so, concerning our mindset all what you said are true, until we have the right mindset about life we can't get the best out of life, my contribution to the write-up is that, the moment we have the right mindset we should also be hardwork. Thanks for sharing Sir.

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But you are right man, all this ponts are what we need to set in mind if we really want to make a difference

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Hm true we need a good mind set. We always run after success. It's good but we should remember success will not come easyly . We should enjoy all the things. All are part of life

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Lovely.

The opinions about other people should not be your priority… even if you change yourself for a particular people, other will still have their own opinions. We can’t please all. Humans can’t be satisfied. So why not just be ourselves and let others deal with their opinions themselves.

There’s nothing more Important than our mindset, our mindset definitely define us.

I remember when we had a youth program where we talked about mindset, it was really educating.

This is really nice.πŸ˜ŠπŸ‘

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The mind is the most powerful thing we as humans have, just like you've rightly stated, the things we feed to our minds are what we eventually manifest to the world to see. No wonder the Bible says, that as a man thinks so he is and that is why when people did some certain things and say it's a mistake I don't think it is. We might not be intentional about things but the moment we do something we should be careful because that might just be who we truly are.

Working on our minds is very paramount and the earlier we know that and start working on it, the better for us and even others.

Thank you for sending us this beautiful piece this morning, I'm edified πŸ™.

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Very true what you say my friend, the past and what they will say is something that makes us try to change things that sometimes are out of reach, which makes us end up tired and sick.

Changing the mentality is vital to move forward and if you are calm you can achieve better things, not only what you want is something good.

Thanks for sharing :D

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Gra ias por tu excelente publicacion . la verdad a veces podemos tener situaciones con otras personas que nos afectan muchisimo y quisoeramos tener el control de sus actitudes , pero a veces no podemos ni controlar la nuestra . eso es lo primordial

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Hmm... we want to have control over the attitude of others but yet we haven't learnt to do control ours. In another word, development begins with you. I see your POV.

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I totally agree with you and I like the fact that you did not make this topic so difficult to understand with the way you arranged your points.

Just as you said, the major thing one needs to work on to live a better life is one's mindset.

Before now, I allowed the situations around me to define who I am, I was always bothered about what people thought about me. It affected me so badly that I had low self-esteem.

Looking back to those days and looking at myself now, I would say that what contributed to my change of mindset was the change of environment.

The environment we are in also matters when it comes to the mindset thing.

What do you think?

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This is true. Only change what you can control. Don't cry over past events, instead treat them as a life lesson so in the future you won't stumble again.

Regarding other people's opinions and behavior towards me, I always listen to other people's criticism. I don't treat them as toxic people, because sometimes they are more honest than close friends.

If I think what they're saying about me is true, then I'll change myself if it will make me a much better person (because that's the only thing that I can control, myself) and hope that someday, people will see the change in me, then I can start to change their opinion and behavior towards me.

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Spending more time on things you can't change will lead to frustration and depression, which will affect your life negatively.

You just talked to me here🀦. I was on this table sometimes in my life, as human I am, it wasn't easy for me. looking around the happenings around me led me to reflecting and dwelling in the past but then, it didn't solve any of my problems, but rather led me into depression, and bitterness. Glad there was a shift in my mindset not so long , which made me to define my life and confront my frustrations.

Honestly there are so many things we cannot change but when we are able to work on our mindset, things will align for good.
Thanks so much for this food for thought πŸ’­

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I am glad you were able to shift your mindset, define your life and confront your frustrations. Look at you now, a lady full of vibes and good heart.

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Our minds can be out greatest advantage and it can also be our greatest disadvantage, it all depends on us, the owner of the mind.

The main difference between successful and unsuccessful people is their mindset. We can only improve our lives if we work on the information we feed it, how we think, and our outlook on life.

I was to screeem, thank you so much for emphasis on working on the information we feed on because it's very possible to know a lot and do little.

Also, this topic of mindset cannot be overemphasized. I used to be so guilty of being bothered about my past, but change of mindset freed me. You've spoken the truth here.

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I think you have written something about being effected by the information you take in. and truth it is very possible to know a lot do little, so it is quite important to put in some actions to progress...

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