What is Your Worth? | Ladies Of Hive Contest Number #84

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My Self Worth

You give, give, give, & they take, take, take, take.
That's they way I feel a lot of the time. Although you give a lot of yourself to others, they somehow seem to always take more then you have to give.

I like to do for others & help where I can, but to be honest sometimes it's more of a hindrance on me and sometimes it's pure pleasure. For the most part my rewards are hardly what I'm worth. I have to ask myself, how rewarding was it to just do this for the person? I'm not always looking for a reward but sometimes it would be nice even if something in returned was just offered.

A couple of examples:

When I was younger I attended cosmetology school, I had a passion for doing hair & wanted to make it my career. I would often do my mothers hair & most of the time she would hand me a few dollars for doing it. This was my mother & I didn't want her to pay me but she also understood that I took the time and my skills to do something she needed, plus if she were to go to the salon it would have cost her much more.

I also did others hair like my sisters and some other fmaily & friends. They always seem to think that I was to do it for free & thought that if I charged them that I was charging too much. But they never complained when they went to the salon and paid them twice as much for their services. It's times like this that made me felt like I wasn't being rewarded what I was worth. I had the same knowledge and sometimes even the same experience as the girl at the salon but they were willing to pay here twice as much as they paid me, not to mention that they thought they shouldn't even be paying me at all and I was lucky to even get a tip. That kind of killed my desire for doing others hair.

Another thing is after raising 6 children of my own and helping with 26 grand children and now 7 great grand children, You would think that the reward would be just as great. However, many of them don't even think about me on Mother's Day, my birthday, Christmas, or any other time. I'm lucky to get a phone call from some of them.

Now I'm not looking to get a reward all the time, but today's society is nothing like it was when I was young. You reward others by your actions. You at least give your mother a card or some flowers on mother's day, even if you have to pick them from the garden. Mother's Day was for anyone you could relate to as a mother, they didn't have to give birth to you.

Conclusion

You take a Job because you have to pay your bills & survive, but you never really get paid what you're really worth. It's not all about money, but it's nice when someone you've helped, especially family, shows up and hands you something that shows they were thinking about you & appreciate what you have done for them. No one can really reward me what I feel my worth to be, but it feels good to just have them to show you they value who you are.

I like to 'Thank You' for taking the time to read this post which was inspired by this contest from the @ladiesofhive community.

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Ladies of Hive invite.....

These are very busy women of the community and I would like to take the time to invite them to join us here in the 'Ladies of Hive" community, I'm sure you'll find it interesting. @thisismylife @ravenmus1c @elianaicgomes @lisamgentile1961

And these two ladies I just recently had the pleasure of meeting here on Hive and believe they will like it here so come on and join us @ladiesofhive .... @metzli @kemmyb

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Thanks for the invite! I would love to officially be a Lady of Hive.

My sister in law is a Barber. It is always an awkward exchange because she will not take payment.

It took me a while to catch on that she WILL take gifts, but really though, I would much rather hand her a $20,

You have a whole lot of descendants, I hope to have many one way as well.

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Hello @successchar
Welcome to Ladies of Hive.
Ladies of Hive is here for you.
This is where we can exchange ideas and be inspired by the stories of others.
Perhaps we have the knowledge to share or perhaps we need to learn from others.
No matter what it is ... do it on Ladies of Hive.
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Thank for your entry and
good luck with the contest.

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Thanks!
I've been following your community for at least a year now but never realized that I hadn't subscribed til now. I have seen some amazing post from the Ladies of the community. Thanks for having me.

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You received 2 LADY(LOH) tokens for entering the Ladies of Hive contest!

We believe that you should be rewarded for the time and effort spent in creating articles. The goal is to encourage token holders to accumulate and hold LOH tokens over a long period of time

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Thank you!
I did not even know that you had a token, I will add to my list of tokens on my radar now that I know.

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Hello @successchar. I read your story with interest. I can understand your definition of self-worth. Sometimes it does seem that others don't value your worth as much as you do. When you say:

"You give, give, give, & they take, take, take, take.
That's they way I feel a lot of the time. Although you give a lot of yourself to others, they somehow seem to always take more then you have to give."

I've encountered situations such as this with my own family. At some point, you have to realize that no one can devalue your worth. In your story, it seems as though you have given yourself to your family.

It's hard to think that you're not being rewarded the same as you give.

I've heard numerous stories from friends who feel the same way. Family members will pay other to do a task, but then grumble at the thought of assisting another family member who has supplied them with the same service. I don't understand and never will this way of thinking. A lovely gift would have sufficed as a "thank you". Now, that's appreciated.

I'd like to thank you for sharing your story. Have a good rest of your week and into the weekend.

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Thank you for taking the time to read & enjoy my story. Only if those who take so much would understand. I find that once they are grown & in your shoes then they start to understand.

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It is considerate of you being hesitant at receiving money from family for your services rendered. Perhaps there wasn't clear professional boundaries settled in your heart and discussed with your family and friends.
As a nurse myself, and I get asked for medical advice by family and friends.
KLR

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You're so right, now that I am older, I make the boundries clear even though they sometimes like to say, 'Are you kidding?' or something along those lines. I've learned the hard way, that if you don't stick to your own guns & put your foot down, they will walk all over you.

I can only imagine the things you are asked as a medical professional. That isn't one of my fields but I'm even asked for medical advice and they get mad when I say you should go to the doctors cause I'm not sure about that.

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No one can really reward me what I feel my worth to be, but it feels good to just have them to show you they value who you are.

I love this statement and couldn't agree more! I'd wanted to write on this topic and had a lot in my head about my self worth similar to all you have written here.

It's normal for most people to take others for granted, especially family. This should not be. The saying charity begins at home should hold sway here —valuing our own rather than outsiders.

I'm glad you know your worth and have come to terms with what to expect from people. It's borne out of experience!

This is an inspiring read. Thanks for the invitation. I'll work on my entry.
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Thanks!

Sometimes it's hard to believe that this is how our family acts. I have more strangers in my life that are like family then my family themselves. That's a shame.

I hope you get your entry in in time!

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Thank you! I will definitely check out this community!! !PIZZA

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