Fire in My Eyes — 7 Tricks to Control Your Anger
Sometimes when I am angry, I feel like I could burn them with my wrath. I seriously think that If I had a fire in my eyes I would burn some stupid people just with my mere stare!
You're likely to feel it before. That feeling of rage where your blood boils, your face gets red hot, and you're ready to go on a rampage upon the world. I have suffered a lot because of my rage. Sometimes I regret acting out of my wrath, sometimes I don’t!
I am working towards controlling my anger. I think I will never be able to master this trait. I have very little patience about stupidity. Having said that, luckily (or unluckily), there are things that you can do to help control that anger. Please note that I am mentioning ways which I find useful, it might vary from person to person. Here are a few tricks I find useful.
Try Deep Breathing
It is important to realize that breathing is very helpful in minimizing the effects of anger.
Deep breathing has many different health benefits and can even help to reduce anxiety and depression.
It also helps to reduce stress and tension, which tends to increase the anger we feel when we're mad.
If you find yourself extremely angry and cannot seem to control yourself, remember that 'anger controls you,' not the other way around.
Do your best to relax your body and mind by practicing deep breathing techniques -Inhale for a count of four seconds through your nose, hold briefly then exhale deeply and take a few deep breaths
Bite Your Tongue
It's an oldie but a goldie; this good ol' expression is one of the best ways to keep yourself from saying something regrettable when you're angry with someone else.
Sure, it might make you look a little odd in public but it works. It helps me a lot when I become angry at my work. Super handy in certain situations.
Take Time Away From the Situation
Just go away from the situation that is making you angry. Take a walk outside to clear your mind. If you can't leave, try taking in some deep and slow breaths. If you still can't calm down, it may be a good idea to find something to do with your hands.
You have to evade the situation. If you can't do it physically do it mentally.
Distract Yourself From the Situation
Did anyone ever tell you that counting to ten can help alleviate some anger? You're not alone if someone did; this technique has been around for quite some time now.
The next time someone ticks you off, try counting slowly from one to ten. You will be amazed to see the result. You can also try a punching bag or muscle relaxer to occupy your hands. Any sort of distraction will do the trick I believe.
Use Positive Affirmations
Try saying positive things such as "I can do this" or "Everything will be okay". This will change your attitude and outlook on things, which can stop anger in its tracks.
Positive affirmations are a great way to turn the volume down on anger. Saying positive things about yourself can help you head off anger before it even starts. Try repeating them calmly, and believe that it will work.
Talk to Someone
Talk to someone about the anger - whether it's friends, family, or a therapist who specializes in anger management issues
Talking about it, maybe with a third party who is not personally involved, can help you to understand what caused your anger and how you can control it. It would be better if you can talk to someone who understands your emotions and frustrations and would listen to how you feel.
Join a Support Group
This is the last resort and an important one if you think it's necessary.
Support groups are great for learning how to deal with stress and other problems that might cause anger issues. Getting together with people in similar situations is an excellent way to discuss techniques that work or counseling sessions that have worked for others, making this an invaluable resource when trying to control your wrath. It is also really fun!
Accept that no one is perfect. We all get angry sometimes or most of the time. Don't say or do anything that you will regret later on just because of anger. Saying something hurtful out of anger will only make the situation worse. I learned it the hard way.
Sometimes in an argument when things are heating up, you may let things go. It is not worth it to argue with some people.
If you realize that your hormones or mood swings are making you angry, try to reconsider your thoughts. And if you happen to know or guess the person that is making you angry is undergoing such an emotional rollercoaster, let it go.
A loud voice may seem powerful, but saying something in an uninflected tone is more powerful than yelling when you are trying to express an opinion or explain how another person has made you feel.
To conclude, having control over your emotion is a virtue in my opinion. On the other hand, wrath is one of the seven deadly sins. Every religion discourages anger and directs us not to act upon it. Sometimes, when you are talking to people who are close to you, and you want to express some thoughts which you kept to yourself for a long time — you know that you will burst out in the conversation. Let them know beforehand and spit it out.