LOVING THEM IS WHAT MAKES THEM SPECIAL.

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Looking back, thinking about the past and everything happening around me, I can’t help but ask why people hurt others the way they do. Several moments of my life, I had always wanted to call people who had claimed to love me or who had claimed that I meant a lot to them. I had always wanted to give them a minstrel seat that they may sit and tell me why they had to do what they did. Sometimes, as humans, we get to think about these things very often. What went wrong with all the promises and what exactly we did wrong. We keep asking, unfortunately, we never find answers. Here, I am going to ask you the same question.


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“If you ever get the opportunity to ask someone who wronged you so hard, possibly a lover who left you hurt and broken ,the reason why he/she did what he/she did, would you take that opportunity?” Would you be interested in knowing the reason for his/her actions towards you?

Here is my answer....... I have made a certain decision. A decision to own my life and follow my path genuinely. I have decided to let myself be loved truly. I am not going to let anyone treat or love me like a crime scene. I have no interest in finding out the reason behind whatever they did. I have learnt from these experiences, and they have set me straight in life. I have chosen not to make comparisons especially in relation to where I was yesterday.

My past is not a story to be ashamed of, or one that should get me discouraged from taking bolder steps and moving ahead with life. My past has ignited my knowledge and fueled my experience, it is like a catalyst that has shaped my perception about people, the world and life. I am trying to be kind and subtle by accepting what life has thrown at me. I have cultivated an understanding about the nature of man and who he truly is. The fact that we are humans and therefore can choose whether to love someone or to stop loving someone at any point. I have genuinely understood and accepted the workings of divine providence - that if something is meant to happen, it will certainly come to pass.

I have come too far to go back to my vomit. Going back would be a way of discrediting every obstacle I overcame, knowing that I fought so well to be at the end of my peace. I only keep track of my success, wins and not my pains. I have stopped mourning things that would have ruined me.

So, I ask again “if you had the opportunity to ask that person who claimed to love you why he/she left you torn and bruised, would you ask?”

My answer remains NO……. I healed and moved on. It doesn’t matter why that person did what she did, what matters is that I wasn’t worth fighting for, perhaps to them, I wasn’t good enough. I have also realized that loving a person is what makes the person special. Ordinarily, there is nothing special about them and my mind holds no memories of them anymore.


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if you had the opportunity to ask that person who claimed to love you why he/she left you torn and bruised, would you ask?

If they didn't see it fit to leave with an explanation then I'm not interested in whatever has to be said afterwards.

The only thing that I know is "they left". Whatever the reason behind it I don't care. There is a high probability that the reason will hurt me more because it may be so insignificant so I'd rather not know.

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Yeah...you are very right. The reasons might be insignificant, and it would hurt more.

Thank you for reading

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