How happy does NOT spending make you?

I had a very shitty budget for January. I didn't factor in a lot of things, think about a lot of possible expenses that would affect my budget and as always, I didn't factor in the increase in the price of things.

It's barely even the 10th and my $20 budget for the month is already reading at a minus. I forced a friend to send me money just because I can but even that money ran out. I also didn't factor in data expenses and all that so it's all pretty tiring.
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The crazy thing is how these expenses come up. On one hand, I know it was pretty silly of me to have a budget of $20 but then again, I used to be able to spend so little. How did spending $100 every month suddenly become my normal? It's crazy and frustrating.

Moving on from my very absurd budget experience for the month, something crazy happened and I just feel it makes sense to add it right here coz it's crazy and it also prevents me from spending some more money.

I believe I wrote about a kid we adopted a few months ago. I can't search for the post right now but she's like the 9th child of my cousin who's 36 and has 13 children.

We brought her in to live with us because my mom needed some extra hands around the house as I'm mostly unavailable and I travel without much notice. So she's been living with us and really been helpful until recently when she started acting up. She's only 10 years old so, what the heck???

We sent her home for Christmas and then they brought her back 2 days ago coz schools might be resuming soon. I had already added her school expenses to my extended budget for the month and tried to think up ways to make her experience better in the best way I can.

You can only imagine the shock (and gratitude) I felt when I came out of my room yesterday just before she was about to get her things and leave the house. It was crazy because her excuses made no sense.

She had never been admitted into a school until she came to live with us and even in her house, they barely have enough food to eat. I do not understand what's going through her mind but honestly, I just told my mom to get her mom to come and pick her up coz I don't have the time or energy for all that.

I felt sad because I really wanted to set her on a much better path than she'd be heading with her family but there's really only so much I can do.

I made it a habit to get her clothes every month since she moved here and I always have her on an emergency budget because of her school demands but I guess that's not enough. I probably need to work more on my mom skills, I guess.

I'm pretty glad that I won't be spending on her anymore. Not here, not my responsibility, you know? There's only so much drama I can take.

That's been the highlight of my week so far. I'm happily no longer taking up mom duties and focusing more on work.

Do you get happy when things don't go as planned but then it saves you from spending money you would rather save for something else? I know I do.

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$100 is not even enough when you put in some pretty basic things, this makes me wonder how people earning below that mark sustain. That said, for the child story, it's a normal thing for kids to do, possibly, she's feeling restricted from things she had access to before now, that's probably the reason for her actions...

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$100 might just be enough because I don't exactly have a lot of expenses. I hope. I really hope. I hate this adulting business. It's so expensive. I hate spending money.

The child wasn't restricted, as far as I know. I let her out to play with her friends but it wasn't enough for her. Her loss. I guess she'll regret it when she's older or maybe she won't.

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I love the fact that you said maybe not, because I am here because I made a bold decision similar to this, though the situation may differ, people eventually adjust as time goes on. Anyways, less expenses for you, even though she may be worth more...

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I think she doesn't understand life yet, hopefully, it doesn't deal with her before she gets it but at least your spending would be managed there and you can start spending on me.

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I just hope this year would be good to all of us.

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