Wrong Labels
Ever been labeled something you aren't?
Maybe a liar, thief, a fraudster, a criminal, a prostitute, etc?
You know in our society today, it is very easy and common for people to label people wrongly.
It's mostly common here in my country when a lady is not decently dressed, she is called a prostitute and the same goes for a guy who isn't properly dressed being called a cultist, and those who dress weirdly or awkwardly are said to be fraudsters, what we commonly call Yahoo Boys over here.
Sure! It is said that we are addressed by the way we dress because the truth is that we can't wrongly label bread as candies, neither can we label mango as pineapple. It's not possible.
But why then do we give wrong labels when it comes to humans.
No one loves to be wrongly judged or labeled but then humans are prone to this behavior.
That's why our world today is becoming worst by the day instead of being better.
Would you be happy to be called a prostitute simply because you decided to wear a short skirt and sleeveless blouse, with painted nails and a wig?
No matter how indecent you may look, it doesn't give anyone any right to label you wrongly because who knows, you really might not be what they think or believe you to be.
Labeled A Criminal
Five days ago, I decided to go to the market with my friend to buy a few things.
We moved from one part of the market to the other looking for what we wanted to buy and getting them one after the other.
We got to a particular bookshop, so I told my friend she should pause and let me get a few books.
I went into the bookshop to get the books I needed only for me to find two ladies already in the frontage of the bookshop also trying to buy as well.
Not too long after my arrival, one of the ladies said she was done with her orders and asked the seller to calculate her bills and give her the balance. The young man told the lady that she didn't give him any money.
I wasn't there when it all started and so I can't tell if she actually did or not.
The bookseller told the woman that she didn't give him any money and even showed her proof that he had no money with him or whatsoever. He told her that the only person he got money from was the other lady who was still standing there without requesting anything just yet.
The bookseller talked to the point of making it look like the lady was a thief and a liar. He indirectly labeled her a criminal. I don't know who the mistake was from and who was telling the truth among the two of them but the words and responses of the bookseller made the woman tear up.
She asked why she would lie about not giving the man money. She said that she has never done such a thing that the guy was accusing her of and she would never in her life do it.
She wanted to return the things she bought or ordered for and leave saying that God should be the judge but the owner of the bookshop came out to intervene and told the accused lady not to be angry that we are all humans and we do make mistakes.
She apologized on behalf of the young guy and also told the lady that the guy wasn't calling her a criminal, but that what he was saying is that he can't remember getting money from her so he can't tell if she actually gave him the money or not.
The woman was crying and wiping her tears. For me, that simple action shows she was wrongly judged and already labeled a criminal.
Two days ago the exact thing happened in school. I don't know why I always witness this and two times in a week already lol.
I and my schoolmates were starving so we decided to visit the school canteen to get some snacks. I picked a few things and my friends did as well, we paid the owner and we stood aside while munching down our snacks and waiting for the other groups to finish. We were in a group of three.
Our group finished buying and the second group as well. But when it got to the third group, after picking the snacks they wanted and asking for their balance, the seller told them that they haven't given him any money to request for the balance. The girls told him they have and that they only had a thousand naira with them, they even had to search and empty their bags to show the seller that they had nothing on them.
This didn't move him in any way, he was still adamant about not giving them balance still insisting that they didn't give him money.
One of the girls became angry and didn't want to drag the whole matter any longer, so she dropped everything she picked and asked her friends to do the same. She wanted to leave and let the money go but when the seller saw this, he decided to give them their balance and asked them to pick their snacks.
Do you know the funny thing the seller said? He indirectly labeled or called those girls criminals and this is what he said; No money ever lasts
And if you wanna look deeply into what that sentence means, it is that whatever is being stolen will one day finish
I looked at the man and felt bad for the girls. I mean it's not their fault that his shop is very busy with no form of assistant and so why should they be wrongly labeled for his mistake?
The canteen is always very busy with many people picking snacks and trying to pay for them at the same time, so it can happen that those girls actually gave him the money but he forgot who among all his buyers did.
Labeling people wrongly is bad and no one ever loves such or will be happy with such
I can't even stand people doing that to me. It hurts like hell and even if you wanna prove your innocence it might not make any meaning to the accusers if it doesn't suit their view of you.
Welcome to a world where humans are most labeled wrongly.
People's personalities also cause wrong labels.
One's attitude and character also determine what people will label them, either good or bad, negative or positive.
Everyone seems to have their labels for every person they meet.
Be sure you aren't among those that label people wrongly.
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5 August 2021
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A lot of times I've carried a lot of labels.
Growing up I've been labelled a weakling, they used to make jest of me because I was skinny.
I've also been labelled proud because there was a time I got really antisocial and could hardly converse with people, so the ones who didn't know me thought I was forming or I was too proud.
I've been labelled a criminal too, i see the way older people look at me when I dress up and sometimes plait my hair, they give out this judging look like this one deserves to rot in hell.
I've also been labelled as rude just because I stood up to ask a teacher a question in class, he took the question wrongly and ended up saying a lot and calling me rude.
I've also been labelled as irresponsible, as a liar, as a cheat and the funny thing is that most of this labels come from people really close to you and then you'll ask what you did wrong.
I must say that labels especially wrong one is a part of life in the world we live in. People live to judge others for the things they do forgetting that they're not perfect themselves.
My advice to you is to be focused, be focused on whatever you're really into, be confident, don't let the words of others affect you, just be you and leave the rest to God
Ouch!
You have been wrongly labeled so many things. How sad!
I guess all this is what makes us understand the world we live in.
I guess you were able to stand firm and withstand those tough times you were being wrongly judged.
I am okay, people words may affect me but for a short time and I think I can deal with that anyway. I wasn't the one in this write up by the way, so your advice I don't get where it's coming from or going to😂😂
PS: The number you left on my article, it seems it isn't your WhatsApp number cause I can't find it there @chincoculbert
Yeah . That's just how the world we live operate, so many pointing fingers.
It took time though, it used to get to me really bad, sometimes I'll just break down until I started to get used to it, so it didn't really affect me again.
Lol the advice wasn't directly at you @zellypearl, it was directed at you reading it 😂..
I'm wondering why it isn't showing. Well I'll drop it again then I'll need you to drop yours just in case. 09036884736
Yeah sure things takes time but I hope you are okay now
😂😂 its okay if you say so, I guess it wasn't me then.
I will try again! ;)
Okay, maybe I have been labeled a liar, a cheat, a proud person, a thief, a rude girl, and an irresponsible girl, once I have been labeled a weakling by my aunt. Those are the names at that point hurts but after that time, I don't feel it because I know myself and I am sure, no human hasn't been labeled wrongly and since I know most of do things aren't who I am, I don't dwell on them and try as much as possible not to be who people have seen or labeled me as.
Out of all the names I have been labeled or seen as the one that still sticks in my memory and I have even grown up to think about is being called a witch. Yeah, I have been labelled a witch and even been flogged to mention my co-witches and the name I bear in my witch world.
Oh, dear! I can only imagine how awful that is.
So where are your co-witches and wizards🙄😂😂 don't mind me dear.
No one loves to be wrongly labeled no matter what.