Two Important Facts About Healthy Relationships.

We all talk about relationships, building relationships, and the great community that we have here in the CTP community.

And I fully agree with the fact that we have an amazing community. But, do we realize how blessed we are to have such a community? Do we fully understand the value of it?

We need to realize that we have something very special and we need to protect it.

Over the past week, I heard two statements that got me thinking. One was in a personal conversation and the other was a statement in an interview I listened too.

The Two Statements That Got Me Thinking.

• We need consistency in ourselves

This came out in an interview that I listened too regarding our approach towards life in general. It was very philosophical but very interesting indeed.

In a nutshell, the one statement that was made during this interview was about what is important to us. Many people end up chasing financial success, big houses, and/or fancy cars and they try to build their happiness on those things.

While there is nothing wrong with enjoying any of those, it becomes meaningless if you have no meaningful relationships. If you have nobody that cares about you, nobody to share in your victories and losses, it becomes empty. It serves no purpose on its own and can become meaningless to the point where enough is never enough anymore.

To top it all, this type of "success" and possessions can be lost within an instant. And if you do not have consistency in your relationships and yourself, having true knowledge of who and what you are, you can be in serious trouble.

• We need to be honest and trustworthy

This came out in a personal conversation I had with someone.

For a long time the person I had the conversation with, had no communication with someone very special and close to her. A short while ago, they established contact though, almost as in... "by accident". Yet, it was not too long when it became apparent that the other person actually needs something from her and the communication was not so by "accident" as she thought after all.

Two Important Things to Remember When Building Healthy Relationships

• Be sincere and value people for who they are.

I think it all starts with this. We need to realize that people are not commodities and we need to respect that.

Firstly, we need to be consistent in who we are and what our values are. I often come across people who act in such a way as if you owe them respect. I am so sorry to pop that bubble...but nobody owes you anything...

If we want respect, we have to earn that respect. I suppose it comes back to the age-old saying of "treat others the way you want to be treated"...

Don't be kind and helpful to someone just for the sake of what you can get out of it. Don't reach out only when it can be of benefit to you.

This kind of behavior becomes obvious and soon people will become very skeptical about you.

• Relationships aren't seasonal

It is amazing how we have different times for so many different things during the year.

In February we have Valentine's Day. Then there is Easter, then comes Thanksgiving and Christmas time, just to name a few of the big global seasons.

Then there is Mother's Day, Father's Day, Woman's Day, Heritage Day (here in South Africa) and so many more.

All these "days" and seasons are wonderful and I think it is a great opportunity to just spoil the people close to you.

But the sad part is that on 14 February it is Valentine's Day and everybody "feels the love". We buy gifts for our loved ones, treat them with expensive dinners and nights out...

And on 15 February...? Back to the rat race. "Sorry, I am so 'busy', I just don't have time for you right now". Or you open the newspaper and domestic violence makes the headlines again while yesterday it was all about "love"...

Many children live in fear for the moment when Daddy comes home because most likely he had a bad day at work...again... Yes, I suppose we have to wait for Easter now before the kids can get spoilt again with some "love and festive fun".

Conclusion

If we just consider these two principles, I believe we will build healthy and sincere relationships.

We will reach out to other people because we really care and not just because we can gain something for ourselves. Likewise, other people will reach out to us, because there will be mutual trust.

Moms, dads, children, spouses, family, colleagues, friends, everybody is special and important...every day! We should just use these special days and seasons to show our appreciation.

This is what I appreciate about the community here on the HIVE blockchain and in particular the CTP community. There are continuous and spontaneous communication and support amongst the members within the community.

Not only is there the willingness to support, lend a helping hand, and offer advice...I have seen members within this community standing up for one another when necessary too when some moral support is needed.

This is true value and not something that can be bought with money.

If you are not part of this community yet, why don't you pop in and say hi?