ON WHAT GROUND DO YOU RENDER ASSISTANCE || THE ACT OF GIVING

As I grew up, I was taught to learn how to help a friend in need but what rules do we follow when trying to help a friend in need.

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I was inspired to write on this topic after sharing my thoughts this morning with @selfhelp4trolls about helping a friend of mine over a problem. The reply I got from zack (aka. @selfhelp4trolls) got me and I thought it is what sharing over here.

While thinking whether I should help this friend of mine or not, zack briefed me the rules he follows when trying to help someone and somehow, unconiously I also follow by the same rules. So let's go brief into them...

1. They are Kind and appreciative: It feels somehow when you help someone and the person do not show any sense of appreciation and definitely, arrongant and proud people are not encouraging to help or give out to.

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When someone is very kind and shows appreciation on little things, I get very much pushed and encouraged to do something more.

2. Not expect anything in return: When you give and you expect something in return, then I don't call it giving. It is more like lending or investing for returns later. When we give, we should learn to do it whole heartedly and not because we want something back from them.

3. Giving at your capacity: When I want to give out to someone, I prefer doing what my capacity can take and not go to far about causing problems and stress for myself.

4. Depends on my relationship with the person: My relationship with the receiver depends on how much I am willingly to stress on the person. On a norms, nobody can go extra mile for someone who you don't have good relationship with.

The first 3 rules were what zack gave, then I added the 4th one. These rules are what I have considered and looked into finalizing the decision to help this certain friend of mine. So what about you, what rules do you put in mind when trying to give out to someone?



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You know when people talk about leadership, it sound like a big deal. To me and understanding of leadership, leadership is what is in build in human character beside an adage said leadership is show by example. If someone is in build leadership the act of leading will become something of life doing.
As a child from his playing toy he or she wl like to share his or her toys with other children, due to the leadership in his or her way of life.


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I'd say these rules are totally necessary... thanks for sharing

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Actually you made a very nice points but I want to chip in one or two things, to render assistance to someone doesn't require any specific or particular criteria I think it depends and comes from one's mind to render assistance to another person and such assistance shouldn't cause stress or a problem to the person rendering the assistance, although someone might have one or two things that might trigger him or her to render and assistance to another person which might be the law we or she have for the person or maybe he or she have pity on the person depending on the condition or situation of the person or it can be that he or she has enough and think that the other person needed at least a little out of it then he or she decides to render the assistance all these are things to consider in rendering assistance of course is very nice to render assistance to someone but not at the expense of yourself.


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Yeah, there isn't actually a law or criteria before one can render assistance, but for me most times before I do, my mind unconsciously classifies this criteria before any action is made. Most times, I might just feel a lot of pity for a person as well and I decided to do it for the sake of wanting to change the situation of that person without thinking of any criteria. It's all just about being human.

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I will ask a question? If you have one bowl of rice in the house and someone comes to beg for a bowl of rice, will you give it out?

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