Are you a proud person?

If you are a proud person like me, you know how difficult it is for us to want to show our weaknesses, we always want to show that we can stand the world, and that we will be able to win each stage without anyone's help. But we also know that this is not quite how it often happens.

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Pride often kills us, destroys and corrodes our soul, we are so imperfect that we do make mistakes, and we have to accept them. If we need help we must ask for help, we are not a super hero or a wonder woman.

We are all proud and it's no use trying to deceive saying no, but in some the pride is more hidden, while in others it is wide open. Pride is not only what we see, but also the feeling we have hidden inside us, what we don't show to anyone.

In the course of life we ​​go through difficulties and delicate situations that we need to ask someone for help, but pride does not let us show our weakness and we close ourselves to everything and everyone.

If you are proud, challenge yourself to go slowly breaking that pride that hinders your emotions and distance you from people. Let's fight a little of our pride, after all we are not made of iron.


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Pride is the ego. It wants to hold on and keeps us from growing and changing. Getting over that pride and letting it go is the way to be successful in life (or in business). @ryzeonline taught me this. I had to let go of that pride so I could have what I wanted in life.

Great post and message.
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There is a small flipside though... 'healthy pride.'

Children are proud of their drawings, their learnings, their growth, even if other people don't like it, and that pride is very important and healthy. Adults can have healthy pride as well, for example I take pride in my work. I'm proud of the value I deliver to people. And even when haters come by with nitpicky, mean-spirited comments, I still hold pride in my creations and my efforts.

In life many people are best served by 'letting go' of "over-pride", while others are served by 'picking up' their "under-pride", if that makes sense.

I imagine you and @anacristinasilva are mainly discussing the former, but I figured I'd point out the flipside in case anyone comes across it.

Overall, I agree, great post and message! 🙏

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That's exactly what I wanted to say... it's this kind of pride that I also want to say...

I consider pride healthy... A question I want to raise here, sometimes I need help from a person, but when I ask, the person refuses, and when I don't need help, the person offers help but I don't need it at the time, so I deny help.

I feel frustrated when I need someone's help and that someone refuses to help, it seems that the person ignores it. So if someone offers help to me and I don't need it, I deny it because I don't really need help... I'm the type of person who doesn't like to bother others for nothing.

Thanks for reading and commenting @ryzeonline.


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You raise an interesting question about 'asking for help', @anacristinasilva :)

My understanding on the topic is this:

There are 8 billion people in the world. Many of them will be willing to help us. It is our 'job' to put ourselves out the world, asking for help in different areas and communities, with different kinds of expression, and in this way... we will attract the correct helpers.

But it is usually not helpful to expect help from the people close to us. We can ask them, sure, but it is not helpful to expect them to say yes in the way we want, or the timing we want.

Proper help is given with a good heart, not out of obligation, burden, or expectation.

For example, many people here on Hive have helped me, but my own family knows almost nothing about my life, career, or struggles-- and that's ok.

I used to feel frustrated that they wouldn't help the way I wanted them too, but I learned that expecting things from them wasn't beneficial.

So now, I don't expect them to help. I still love my family, we get along, I enjoy spending time with them, but I'll likely have more success asking strangers for help, at least for now. As I grow more established and well-known and 'famous,' my family may see me in a different light, and feel more like helping. That's fine also.

I hope this makes sense and adds some clarity about this.

And either way, great post and discussion, thank you. 🙏

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I agree with all of this. I had the same issue with my own family and friends close to me. I was expecting their help and I would be frustrated when it didn't come.

You @ryzeonline know me deeper than any other person in my family. I've let go of expecting anything from my family and I know that when I am successful they'll be back.

Proper help is given with a good heart, not out of obligation, burden, or expectation.
I love this. It's soooo true
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Yeah, it's a helpful thing to learn that can save people a lot of frustration and headaches. Hopefully I'm able to teach it and save people some troubles. 🙏

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You're right about the kid with the drawing example. I'm proud of my creations, all of them, even the ones that "fail".

thanks for pointing that out too, "healthy pride". It's good to point that out.

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I agree in parts with you.. I am proud, yes, and I will never admit that I need help, because when I need help and the person refuses to help me, I feel too frustrated, and that's why I stopped asking for help.

And when I don't need help, there are people who offer me help, but when I need it, people refuse to help me, so I prefer not to ask anyone for help, and when the person offers me I don't accept it either, because actually at that moment I don't I need help.

Do I understand? I don't do it for bad, it's a matter of me feeling frustrated when I have to and the person refuses. And why would I accept help when I don't need it?

I'm the type of person who doesn't like to disturb anyone, and I'll only ask for help when I really need it, but I've seen that when I really need it, people make light of it.

Thanks for reading and commenting.


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