My View on Disciplining a Child in the Public

Parenting comes with lots of responsibilities towards our child. Not an easy task but a very important one we should always give attention to.

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Every child is special and we must show love to all children no matter how naughty we feel they are.

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Discipline/Correction is important in the upbringing of a child and must be done in love. As a parent, we must understand our children's behavior at home and outside. We must learn to control our anger and manage every situation with our children. It's very important to discipline our child because if we fail to do that, the child might see every one of his actions as normal and in the future, there might be a catastrophe.

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Just two days ago, I was in the church and watched a mother beat up her daughter so hard, she dragged her, shout, and flogged her so harshly in presence of hundreds of people sitting in the church extension. The discipline created a scene because the child kept wailing. The mother loosed her anger on the child simply because she asked her to stay in one place and she refused.

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I understand that these children can be annoying sometimes, especially in public with so many funny actions but then, I think it's wise that parents should control their anger to some extent, especially in the public. A gentle scolding, silently warning the child with a facial expression, with the intent to make her know she was wrong at that moment is a good way to handle the child in the public so you can pass your message immediately then go home and express yourself to the child's understanding is a good approach.

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While disciplining a child, it's important to explain to the child the reason for the discipline. This would give him the awareness of his wrongdoings.

How do you discipline a child in public? Is it in a way another parent would like to emulate? Has it created an awareness for the child to learn and not involve in the act again? Ask yourself these questions as a parent before you correct and discipline your child in public.

I am not trying to teach anyone how to parent his or her child. We are proud parents and are entitled to the way we see it right to discipline. However, this is my view on correcting a child in the public.

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Feel free to contribute in the comment section so we can learn together. There is no written manual to follow in the parenting journey and also, learning never ends!

Thanks for reading!!
Please note: The picture above is mine

Remember to keep staying positive and be happy 💞🥰😊.



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A child should always be corrected with Love and Care sometimes when you do the corrections in a calm ways it's easier than doing it the way you may think it's normal in the society.

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Correcting calmly gives results to children whereas some children need a strong hand. However, we should be calmer with the child while in public.

Thanks for visiting and for your nice comment my dear.

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You are right some needs iron hands hehe those days when misbehaving will be too much in us your Aunty will tell us shebi una need iron hand* .
You are welcome 🤗

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I agree with you when you said a parent to let the child in on what he or she is been disciplined for. So many parents don't do this, once the child does something wrong, they just start flogging him or her and end up not telling the child why he or she was beaten.

Thank you so much for sharing this with us, I find it very helpful.

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You got it hope dear👌
A child should be aware of his wrongdoing before embarking on discipline. Secondly, while in public, parents should learn how to control their anger on the kids.

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Well said, thank you so much for sharing. This is a wake-up call to every mother, we should be slow to anger although it takes grace and self-discipline. May God help us to take the right decisions towards our children.

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Amenn oo

I am glad you understand my point here. Thanks a bunch for your contribution.

!LADy
!ALIVE.

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Nice reading this from you. I can already imagine how the scene will be when the woman decided to drag her daughter in public. Those scenes always live forever in the child's memory. It also causes long lasting timidity for many kids as they grow older.

We kinda overdo parenting in this part of the world. Little wonder why many parents and their kids do not get to have decent conversation. The parent-child relationship is always like a relationship between harsh employer and employee. Haha.

I like you opinion about this and I'm glad you FINALLY got to submit a post on DreemPort. We hope to get more submissions from you.

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Wowww
This comment/contribution is almost a full post you know 🤩🤩
Thanks a bunch for this amazing addition to my view.

And for the dreemport? Hahaha
You made it happen. Expect more from me😊

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You are already doing well and I'm glad you got started on DreemPort. Haha. I'm sure you will do well on this amazing Dreemie Port.

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Instead of damaging your image by beating kids in public, you can just show your strict facial expression. This would be decency enough. I use to restrict my niece with my words (as I made her fearful of the fictional character. She quits the action and asks about the character 😹) Problem sorted out hehe.

Dreemport dropped me here .

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Wowww
Facial expression can do some magic sis. Only if mothers will desist from public discilpline , it will save our images.

Thanks a bunch for the warm visit via dreemport.

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I feel that we should try and control our temper when dealing with children. But for sure they need to know rules and boundaries or they become wild.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

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Wow, I cherish your contribution so much, thanks for reading 👍

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You are right ma. Parents needs not to be harsh when discipling a child in public. There are different cool methods to imbibe in training and discipling children and not until you vent all your anger on them. I came to your post through Dreemport.

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Wow, many thanks for your contribution to this post and your warm visit through dreemport, thanks a bunch Busayo👍🥰

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A good first share in Dreemport 😍 Some good insights... what I can say is that as a parent of a special needs child it can be quite challenging in public. My youngest is autistic and has ADHD amongst other challenges which include sensory processing issues and demand avoidance, so you can imagine that taking him out in public can be a struggle in itself. Take him outside where he can run and expend his energy and have fun... no problem...take him shopping and you will wish that you hadn't!!!😂 He struggles so much that he has to turn everything into a game... the supermarket becomes his playground and I spend at least half of my time keeping him in check so to speak so that we can get the shop completed and get out the door... so I do my best to get bigger shops done without the kids around !LOLZ

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Wowww, you are doing very well already may🤩🥰. I perfectly understand your child's case and the challenges it can be while in public . Dreemport is such an amazing place to be. I am happy to be finally here with you people 😊

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I think you're absolutely right ma, funny enough I've also witnessed such scenarios in church as well... And I'd often be wondering why they just had to make a scene like that instead of quietly walking them out and reprimanding their kids in private. But as usual everyone minds their business because they don't want to seem like they're questioning their parenting abilities. So I think it's good as someone finally mentioned it, at least awareness should be spread that there are other ways to control your children other than reprimanding and hitting them in public. No matter how handful they may be, kids have feelings too. Thank you for sharing! 🤗

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Deeper thought 🤔🤔🤩🤩
This comment is superb, thank you so much for the great contribution to this content . I wish mothers can learn how to control their anger in the public.

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I enjoyed this piece. What you wrote is the right thing. Many parents forget that children are individuals too with feelings. We must learn how to treat them with respect too even when correcting their mistakes.

It can be a little overwhelming sometimes but with children, you need to learn the gentle approach.

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Woww
Wowww...children have feelings too and that should be respected . Thanks a bunch for this amazing contribution 👍

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You are welcome. I love me some good discussions like this.

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