"Stuck" In The Middle || Life Is What You Make of It

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Me taking care of everyone, while also being a "loner". #middlechildandproud

Ever heard of the middle child syndrome?

I'm a classic case of being one and yet I don't box myself into it. I only use the term to explain certain behaviors of myself. And I say certain, because we are shaped by more than our birth order, our upbringing, our friends we choose, etc.

But, why do I explain certain behaviors to this middle child syndrome? As you might have guessed, I'm a middle child. I didn't really know my role and I didn't have an explanation for my behavior, until I went to the university. That's when I attended some psychology classes and during one of those this theory got discussed and that explained some of my behaviors.

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The behaviors I could attribute to being the middle child are in short:

  • my ability in being a peacemaker and a mediator.
  • my sense of justice and willingness to fight for those who aren't able to do so themselves.
  • my competence in being a team-player; I work well with others.
  • my independent nature.

But, like I said I'm not the type to be put into some box. There are certain things I chose for myself or that I needed to change in my life. Just like how a leadership role was mainly attributed to firstborns, I put it upon myself as a middleborn, to take up that mantle in some instances. Another example is that researchers found that middle children are less family-oriented, which isn't true for me. Yes, I'm very independent and I am good at being by myself, so kind of a loner. But I do have a good bond with my family. I could talk for hours with them about anything, be it face to face or via the phone. That is something I chose for myself.

So, to all those middles, firstborns or the lastborn out there, don't be discouraged about your order of birth. There are some perks to it and there's room for you to grow and it's up to you in who you want to be. You do have a say in who you want to be.


Chasse into the backstage! 💃



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I’m a middle child myself, and yes I really don’t mind being alone but can socialize well when I am ready. All those traites you noted I can relate to. Hmm when it comes to family though, I realize I need my space at times but my wife realizes this about me and accepts it. But I guess we all need that “me” time, some more than others.

This is what I did with it recently.
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How cool to know you're also a middle child.
And I can relate; I like being around family and friends, but when it gets too noisy and busy, I need some time alone to recharge so to speak.

Nice view... I could just enjoy those types of views and zone out and just be present and peaceful

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