Found In Friendship

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All I have ever wanted in love, I found in friendship - Joel Ijezie



I will love to start this article with a question a friend asked me.
In the cause of our discussion, the question was thrown and the question was;

"Ever been close to someone, and all of a sudden the closeness isn't there again?
And both of you can't tell what happened?"

And here was my response;

Yes. Many times. It's not new to me

And that's the truth. I have been close to people many times, ones I call my friends but all of a sudden we start drifting away from each other. Sometimes we don't really know or can tell what happened but the closeness just disappeared all of a sudden.

Well, though for some we can't tell what happened but for some, communication became the problem or main issue. And like it or leave it when communication dies off in any relationship, then such relationship is dead as well, it is as good as nothing. Communication plays a major role in any given relationship.



And when talking about relationships, I am not only centering on a love relationship between a man and a lady but it cuts across all forms and all kinds, with friendship inclusive.

But looking at the quote; All I have ever wanted in love, I found in friendship, I can't help but say yes and that I am lucky to be one of those persons that found those things in friendship.
Yes, you can agree with me that most loveship started from friendship right? You don't just wake up one day to love someone or have a special string attached to one particular person.

I believe what Joel wanted to emphasize in his quote is that even the things we think or feel that we can only find in love(ship) can also be found in friend(ship)
Most times the things we are busy seeking in love can easily be found in friendship, and yes you don't have to be in any special form of relationship with people before you can experience those things or before you are fortunate to own or be a partner of whatever love can also offer.



I have had friends and I still have friends that even till the next life, I will be grateful for. I know the categories and likes of people I bless God's name for making our parts cross.
People always say that some friends are just there for some time in our life for a purpose and when that purpose is met, a lot of them will go their separate ways.
But inasmuch as I want to believe that, I also think and believe that most friends can be intentionally kept even after they might have fulfilled their purpose or reasons for coming into our lives.

Yes, a friend told me that most times, he intentionally keeps his friends. If he doesn't want to then he wouldn't force it but if he really does need them, he will do everything within his power to make sure that he keeps them.
At first, when he said this, I saw little or no sense in it to be truthful.
I mean, maybe that is because I am not the type of person that forces anything on anyone. We can be friends today but if the next day you decide not to be, I simply walk away, I ain't gonna force anyone to stay or beg anyone to be friends with me.
I believe that humans are very free beings and as such, nothing should ever be forced on them.

But if for any reason you aren't intentionally walking away but something just happened to drift us both apart, every once in a while we will always get back together to talk, and even if the bond wouldn't be as strong as before but at least there will still be some kind of connection, yeah that little understanding and bonding will still be there.



Found In Friendship

What are those things you feel that you can't have in friendship simply because it's not a love(ship)?
If I give people the opportunity to answer this question, some will probably give me a long list of them.
Some wouldn't even get tired of listing them and they really wouldn't mind.

But also the truth there is that all of the things we seek for or after in love can also be found or gotten in friendship.
It is only based on your understanding of that quote from Joel Ijezie.

And I will say this; If love(ship) doesn't work for you, why not give friendship a try? Because at the end of it all, you actually have nothing to lose.
Sincerely there are things friendship will open you up to that love(ship) can never. Love conquers all we agree, but to a certain degree, there are things love might tend to overlook but friends wouldn't and that's the beautiful thing about friendship. You are being given raw and freshly baked without any form of sugarcoats like what can or might happen in love(ship) (my thoughts🤔💁‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️)

If you got it in friendship, then you got it all.
Every relationship today started somewhere.
People who find themselves today in marriage academies, associates, and partners in businesses, etc all started somewhere around that ship called friendship
Yes most of them started as friends and they can tell you about all the benefits and things they acquired in that ship.



Once again, I will tell you that, all I have ever wanted in love, I found in friendship and I am not mincing words.

So tell me guys, because I am still tempted to ask you guys about your opinions on this.
What are those things you feel, think, or believe you can't find in friendship but in love? List a few for me if you wouldn't mind.



~Closing Thoughts

Before I fold this up, I will like to encourage us to treat people right. Even if some friends we have may not be there forever but for a particular season, we should learn to value and treat everyone nicely.
Until their purpose for coming into our lives be fulfilled, and even after that, learn to intentionally build friendship and value it as well because people are your greatest assets

Have you read from me today? If yes then thank you, my faithful readers, I truly appreciate your time on my blog post today.

Still your baby girl;)


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28 July 2021

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Wow, another amazing piece. I must say I can never get tired of reading your works. Really open minded and educative at the same time.

Truth be told I've realized that most of the times the girls I've stayed friends with have stayed in my life more than the ones I've been in relationships with. I don't really know the reason behind this but I feel it's because most times we go into relationships expecting too much and when our expectations are not being met we become frustrated and become hateful. Whereas in friendship, there's no real expectation, my friends are crazy and sometimes stupid,lol but we've still remained friends for years because we've grown to understand that each one has his life to live and we just hope we're in each other's life long enough to see each person live it.

There are a lot of things in friendship that sometimes are lacking in love but I'll rephrase that and say there's no real friendship without love as love is friendship.. friends support each other, they cheer each other on, they're there for each other in good and bad times, they share each other secrets, they're loyal to each other and they love each other, same thing apply for lovers. So I'll say there's nothing in love that's not in friendship.

Thank you for sharing this amazing topic with us and I must say I had fun reading this, I also got to have a deep think


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Beautiful @chincoculbert I just had to break the rule and give this a 100% thumbs up🙂
You always read with deep thoughts and that's very good of you.

Well, I wouldn't know why your relationship doesn't last as much as your friendship but I am glad you do get an answer now after the response you gave too.

And just like I said "if you have it in friendship, then you got it all"

Thanks for coming by, reading, and of course taking the time to leave a great comment too.

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I love this and I bet @wesphilbin would too.

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@thealliance,

Thanks for the shout-out, and yes... yes I do! This would make a wonderful #thoughtfuldailypost @zellypearl! I gave you a follow, upvote, and reblog. ✌💫

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I can't be less thankful for that.
I am glad thealliance gave that shout-out to you and you honored it. I appreciate your time on my post.

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Oh I am glad you do. Thank you for your support and for boosting my article.

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Wow, this is a long writeup but it is an interesting one and that is what makes it time-worthy.

Every loveship starts from friendship whether at the end of the day they break up, marry, divorce, or stay forever. No one, I mean, no fucking one is going to take the responsibility of being in a friendship considering the ups and downs, if he doesn't love you.

Loveship or relationship starts from whether like or love we want to call it, it is still the same. A genuine friendship needs a lot of work whether with the same gender or opposite gender. As you said, there will be no faking of any sort, and would need to tell them or point their wrongs to them with love.

Sincerely there are things friendship will open you up to that love(ship) can never. Love conquers all we agree, but to a certain degree, there are things love might tend to overlook but friends wouldn't and that's the beautiful thing about friendship.

This got my attention 👆

I read a book that said, in a relationship, everyone tends to walk on their toes, avoiding doing something wrong or bad, everyone wants to be good in the other person's eyes so they will be accepted but genuine friendship regardless of who you are, will always be truthful to you and themselves.

Notice I use the word genuine because have different reasons why some people get into a friendship and love may be or may not be their first reason but friendship is sweet with the right person the same way a relationship is sweet with the right person but love is supposed to lead and ve the first reason why one should be in whether a friendship or relationship and there is no relationship without a genuine friendship.

I rest my case 🚶🏻‍♀️🚶🏻‍♀️🚶🏻‍♀️

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Rest it there my dear!😹
Indeed anything genuine will always last longer than a fake one.
And I must applaud you for bringing in the word Genuine ;)

I read a book that said, in a relationship, everyone tends to walk on their toes, avoiding doing something wrong or bad, everyone wants to be good in the other person's eyes so they will be accepted but genuine friendship regardless of who you are, will always be truthful to you and themselves.

You should read more of such books😂 and yes that's exactly what it is. In a relationship, a person will try all they can to appear perfect with little or no flaws simply because they don't know what the other party will think of them or how they will see them so they want to appear all perfect.
Whereas in friendship, they don't mind exposing their flaws and not minding anything.

Friendship is bae🤭😊

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You should read more of such books😂
🙄😏, don't follow and read the book too oh. 🚶🏻‍♀️🚶🏻‍♀️🚶🏻‍♀️

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😅😂 I tell you say, book dey hungry me? Lol

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Well done girl! There's something I say often and people don't really understand.
"Be intentional!"
We often times lose friends because we were not intentional about keeping them. Can two walk together except they agree? No!
I believe everything can be achieved through mutual understanding and effort. When two or more minds know their goal and are intentional about reaching it.

And yeah, I'm one of those people who used to be such a sucker for the relationship kind of love, I still am but there's a difference now. Desperation is out of the picture. There's a lot in friendship, and if we don't enjoy friendship we can't enjoy relationship.

I don't think there's any core value you can't find in friendship that you can find in love relationships. Friendship is like a preamble to relationship, if you don't build the former (friendship) you can't successfully build nor enjoy the later (relationship)

My thoughts tho.
Well done, girl❤️

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I am glad that you are such a sucker anymore 🙂

I don't think there's any core value you can't find in friendship that you can find in love relationships. Friendship is like a preamble to relationship, if you don't build the former (friendship) you can't successfully build nor enjoy the later (relationship)

More than just your thought, it's a fact dear. And people who don't understand wouldn't know.

I like efforts, intentions, and whatever has positive foresight.
Friendship is the real deal ☺

Thanks for stopping by girl, I appreciate your time on this one😉

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Lovely article. I believe that each type of relationship has things that we as humans need. What you can't find in one, you can get in another. You just have to know what you're looking for to choose the right type of relationship, friend or love.

Thanks for sharing.

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Yes! I take your own opinion for it too.
Certainly, we are all looking for something and when we can't get it in a particular ship, we try another
Thanks for stopping by @justclickindiva

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You're welcome. Sometimes people mistakenly look for qualities or actions in one relationship that goes outside the boundaries. Life is all about the different types of relationships we gain and lose at some point in our lives.

I've never heard of Joel Ijezie. Is he a motivational speaker or self-help guru?

All I have ever wanted in love, I found in friendship - Joel Ijezie

Just a suggestion. I found your article on Noise.Cash. published a few hours after publication here on Hive. You may want to mention in that published version that it was originally published on Hive and the link here.

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Noise.cash or read.cash?
As for the quote I found it in an image with that name attached that's why I quoted it with the same name I saw.
I searched for his name as well to be sure if he was a motivational speaker but I found no result and I didn't wanna claim someone's quote do I made the reference of the name I saw on the quote.

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Apologies. It was read.cash.

Whenever you quote anyone, just note the source where you found it, especially since you say it came from an image.

I just looked up the name of the person quoted. Odd that the image of Joel Osteen is shown. I know him to be a pastor of a megachurch and is considered an unconventional preacher in that his messages is more on the tone of motivational speaking. I attended his church year ago. He's written several books that uplift and motivate, such as "Become a Better You."

Thanks for the engagement. Have a good rest of your week. Take care.

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Oh alright. Thanks for the info. So that means the actual owner of the quote is Joel Osteen and not Ijezie?

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Well, I don't know if the quote is from him. You found the quote by someone named Joel ljezie. Maybe this is a different person. But you know where you got the quote from and the image it was printed on.

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Yes. That was the name attached to the image.
Well as it stands we don't know the actual owner.

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As many have said, be sure to always source your photos and content. I know you have, but a simple:

All content is my own unless noted

... would be a good start. Let your readers know what devices you might take a photo with, or perhaps what app or software you may use to create your banners, footers, etc. I say these things out of respect, and love!

!WINE !giphy Positive Energy

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