RE: Family Protection Appreciation Post #1

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I’m not sure who your old profile was as I have a memory like a goldfish but that doesn’t matter really. What matters is that you are sharing your story which helps you and others. My heart does break hearing about what you have been/are still going through. All I can do is offer my support and good wishes. Currently, my sister is going through hell with the cps and when the time is right I may show her this post to help understand there are others out there who have battled on with everyday life even with such a heavy heart.

I do hope one day your daughter reads all you have written and comes to understand how you fought for her.

Take care and I’m sure we’ll speak on hive plenty in the future



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It doesn't matter indeed, I do remember you though :)
But my memory is unfortunately very good, which means I remember all the bad stuff in detail as well. Wish I had more of a goldfish-one sometimes.

When I thought about writing this appreciation post, I browsed through the tag and saw your post about your sister. I felt heartbroken for reading that you had to experience this from this close.

Please do share it if you think she will take the step to write, I truly felt so welcome and finally understood after having only 1 person beside me (my boyfriend) that knew how the truth was for several years. Back then, when I started writing here, I said if I can only help 1 person that reads my story, it was worth it.

I believe that no medicine or psychiatrist could have helped me better than the way I helped myself by writing. On top of that, I've improved my writing a lot since, which has been valuable for other things as well.

I hope your sister can find a way to deal with this and if she decides to write here, I will be here to support her!

Take care! And thank you for your support..

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It's strange how writing can help to purge some of the bad feelings. I never used to write much before I came to hive but once you start the ball rolling it's pretty unstoppable. I know it would help my sister too but at the moment things are so raw and she is kept so busy with the court hearings. I really don't know where she gets the strength from.

Hopefully, we can help raise some awareness on this subject and onboard others to do the same. The community is a little quieter nowadays but with a little effort I think it will begin to grow.

See you around @thisismylife

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She must be a strong woman then, I remember how at some point, I seriously thought I was going to die from the pain and hurt I felt. I felt like my heart got ripped out and I had to keep going. It took quite a long time before I could admit to myself that my ex would not stop ruining my life in every way and would keep me from seeing them. He played games on a high level, let me tell you. I could not do this to my newborn with my boyfriend anymore, she was in the middle of it and I had to stand up and protect her.

They also tried to take her from us, but for once, I got a lady from the agency above CPS that actually looked at my documentation and actually believed me and saw my strength. Thank goodness they never took her from us, but within weeks, we left the country. I didn't want them to have any power over me anymore. It was the only way for me. I still stand by my decision because I could only change what I did, I had no power over his actions. And I would never have those either.

I think when you're in the middle of these hearings, starting to write is not the best time. I call it grieving what I had to do, I had to grieve because I lost two people so dear to me, not knowing what the future would bring, this was the only way to keep going. The pain will never go away, but the hurting will be "doable' at one point so that you can keep your head up, know the truth and fight to be the best version of yourself, no matter what happened in the past.

I wish the same for your sister <3

Although, reading your comment, I feel there is still a chance she might be able to turn things around, so let's go for that for everyone's sake. Poor children, I can't grab my head around these psychopaths (most of them seem to be that category) that just go above and beyond with their poker face as if they think in the best interest of their offspring. It's sickening.

When I used to write daily in this community, I had a mission to finish a book I started to share my story, but at some point I had to make a turn and focus on other things first as I felt it was too much to keep writing about this daily. I do still feel that sharing my story could help a few people and I'm committed to help bring this community back to life and start writing here regularly again.

I probably have to wait until my children are 18+ when they decide to live their own life, but meanwhile many others face the same struggles and feel alone, not understood. Hopefully, I can contribute to help them feel understood at least.

Take care <3

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My sister has had to be strong and in the face of everything going against her. I worry how she will be when it’s all over. It’s cruel how they all play games and manipulate everything that is said. Psychopaths is a perfect description. I certainly think people like us with first hand experience make a difference when we share our stories, for the good of others going through this and for those who have no idea these things happen.

I’ll have to catch up with your profile and see what else you’re interested in. As important as @familyprotection is it would be nice to chat with you about something lighter 🙂

Will chat soon. Take care

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@article61 I agree on the last part, it should not always be this heavy, right?
I know it sure feels like everything is when you're going through it yourself, but to make sure we can actually mean something for anyone by sharing/guiding them, I personally can't be focused on that 24/7, it will bring me down too much.

While I would like to focus on empowerment instead, even if things don't go the way it should/supposed to be, you can still heal and make something of your life. How far away that may seem at that time.

Let's agree next time we meet is in a lighter topic :)

Enjoy your weekend!

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Agreed 100%, and while I do appreciate having you around to support @familyprotection I also look forward to a different topic of conversation with you ❤️

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